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inlove67 (original poster new member #39064) posted at 3:50 AM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
It has been a while since I've posted here. After almost 2 months I have made up my mind...It's over. It's been almost 2 months since my boyfriend told me he cheated.. Even though we were not married my love for him was strong enough that I considered giving him another chance.
Needless to say, our relationship had many problems prior to the cheating. My opinion on cheating before this happened to me was always "Get out now" but i realized that it's not that easy to say until you are in the situation. Another thing I realized is that he will not change. If what he did to me didn't make him want to be better...he never will. I am tired of being hurt and I have decided to move on.
He still calls and texts, its been almost a week since I decided I don't want him to be a part of my life and I hate that I still want to be with him but no matter what, I've decided not to pick up the phone and to move on to someone that will appreciate me.
Out of this post I am looking for support but I'm also hoping to provide encouragement to those who are leaving..it's possible...and even though it may hurt, you can get through it no matter what. I've had one hell of a year and I'm happy to say after hitting my bottom...I'm picking myself back up. 
Jospehine85 ( member #35971) posted at 4:15 AM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
Me - BS
WH - old
Kids
Dday May 2012
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 5:12 AM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
Good for you! I'm glad that you decided to love yourself more than someone that would hurt you so horribly, and then do nothing to change himself into a decent person. Stay strong!
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
stratus722 ( member #35907) posted at 5:19 AM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
Good luck and stay strong. True words and yes you deserve someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 5:20 AM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
Sending you support and hugs.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
Ladyogilvy ( member #31558) posted at 5:27 AM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
Throwing a party here in celebration of your finding your way to freedom.
Me: BW 57. Him: alcoholic, sober now, WH 65Married stopped counting after too many disappointing anniversaries. Two sons, 24&25 years old. He's still keeping secrets and only admits to what I have indisputable evidence of.
nolight ( member #32785) posted at 8:34 AM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
Good for you inlove, I hope your decision brings you some much deserved peace. Keep up with the NC it really helps, have you looked on Baggage Reclaim? It's very empowering.
We make our own fortunes and call them fate, and what better excuse to choose a path then to insist it's our destiny.
dead_inside ( member #3438) posted at 8:42 AM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
I was married for ten years, left, and now happier than ever! I learned to love being on my own for four years, then met an amazing man and planning to marrying 2014. You are doing the right thing! 
Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 8:50 AM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
Good for you! Keep being strong and NC will help you heal.
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
movingforward13 ( member #38405) posted at 3:54 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!
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