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1Faith (original poster member #38975) posted at 5:53 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
If you’re in a difficult season in your marriage and you start to think, “How can I take another 10 or 20 or, God forbid, 30 years of this?” you’re headed for trouble.
You’re asking God to give you the grace for something that hasn’t happened.
Instead, break it down to a single unit — a single day: “Just focus on this: Can I love my husband/wife for this day?” Don’t think about ten years down the road, or even ten months! Can you love your spouse for this one day?
Some friends who knew I was running the Seattle Marathon asked me, “How did you do that for twenty-six miles?” My answer? “One mile at a time.” How do you stay married for twenty-six years? One day at a time.
Break it down. Focus on the here and now. Put the future in God’s hands. Some miles will seem easy, and some will feel hard, but you need to focus only on the ones you’re currently running. Let the others remain in His care.
Can you love your spouse for this one day?
~Gary Thomas
Sometimes my life feels like a test I didn't study for
sodamnlost ( member #37190) posted at 7:03 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
Can you love your spouse for this one day?
I get the concept. I really do. THIS is how I tolerated 3 years worth of neglect from my WH though. 
Me - BS original Dday 10-2012, separated June 2014, divorce Fall 2016
Grief, loss and pain taunt her - "you will never be the same." Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she rises and spreads her new wings as she brushes off the ashes an
1Faith (original poster member #38975) posted at 7:06 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
There are times that the answer becomes no I can't love him today...
Hang in there and take care of YOU. Sorry he is still hurting you.
Sometimes my life feels like a test I didn't study for
Uneek ( member #38416) posted at 7:43 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
Thank you, i needed that reminder. I've been struggling with "how will I know he's telling the truth this time?" and my answer is, take it a day at a time. If the day comes that I know he isn't telling the truth, then we go from there. One day at a time...I can do that!
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 8:15 PM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013
..sounds familiar, like the old.. 'how do you eat an elephant? .. one bite at a time!'
..similar to 'how do we eat this giant shit sandwich?' same theory.. one bite at a time!! 
smy
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
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