Hi Jackie,
I lived in limbo for a year, but called it "purgatory".
One thing that helped DD and I was to get on the state insurance and it was one way to free ourselves of STBXH.
I think many or most states have it now and it's really basic coverage, but makes things like prescriptions really inexpensive. I don't know how long we have on it and have to find out, but it was very freeing.
I am fighting to get it in the papers that he will pay for the expense that are unpaid, where he is trying to stick me with half the financial responsibility, and I am unemployed SAHM for ten years and pregnant! What would I pay with?
So anyway, I just wanted to chime in and say that I agreed, it seems like you ought to have more rights than that lawyer gave info. for.
I "interviewed" several and one told me how awful my balance sheet would look!? I told her, "I know! It had been planned to share that balance sheet for our whole lives!-at least by me!
One way for me to feel better, after a while, was to make phone calls and visits to social service agencies. I have a lot of pride to swallow, but find it freeing and a bit of pride when I can solve a money problem and not include that man (who is unemployed anyway).
I finally found someone to borrow money from and also swallowed that pride, but I was able to be the one to file first and be "Plaintiff", which means a whole lot (for some reason). It means some things like respect and self-respect and other things like that I hope to regain for myself some day.
Yes, I too see men go by and
am finally realizing that other ones exist and now finally feel like I could pursue one if one ever took a second glance (with my physical condition they don't usually, lol).
I wish you luck and I wish you well. I'm glad that you are strong in mind, though and have no blinders or anything.
Yes, Perv claimed he never went to a lawyer until I did and some of that is the passive aggressive part. I think also he was thinking I would have more money to spend then him, but in eternity, it will be him with sooo much more to spend and then lose.