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It's been a year since d-day for me and I just found out the other day that my husband met with his ap!

Of course- dealbreaker for me and time to get my attorney on board.

The only person who I told about my wh's affair was my best friend. My husband and I have been together for over 32 years. His family loves me-some more than him! And my parents adored him as well. Last night I finally told my parents the truth! No details- just the truth! I mean everyone deserves the truth!!

When I told my husband- he was outraged!! I guess he thought I should've gave them some bs story about us growing apart instead of my husband is a liar and a cheat! I mean really! Shouldn't he have thought about his family man imagine being blown from the start?

I plan on telling his family this " I discovered that Brian was having an affair over a year ago and I

gave him every imagineable chance to keep our family together but he wouldn't stop seeing her!"

What do you think?

That sounds entirely kind & reasonable to me. It's honest, it gives enough detail without being salacious, and it prevents any misunderstandings or silly conversations in which the other party tries to convince you you've made a mistake.

My situation is similar to yours. 32 years together. Love his family. Kept it secret on DD#1 but on DD#2told him to tell his parents. He told them,

"I made a mistake. FQ gave me a second chance and I made another mistake."

Not quite what I had expected him to tell them. I let them know what his mistake entailed. He was furious.

What you are planning on saying is more than generous and much less than what I told my in-laws.

Yes. Tell the truth. Because he will likely tell his version of lies/justifications of why he "had" to cheat.

Yep, just tell the truth. I told the truth. My STBXWW told people we weren't happy together for a long time and grew apart. I laugh every time I say and read that now. I told her she can tell people whatever she wants but if they ask me anything they will get the complete truth from me. Funny how they want to keep those images squeaky clean after the fact.

The truth is the only way...and can be remembered.

Truth has nothing to hide.

Lies make messes...and messes...and more drama and messes. Then it becomes "he said, she said" and a losing battle.

I think you are being truthful and actually quite kind, although he'll never see it that way.

Your relationship with them may change. Blood is usually thicker than water in these situations. But the truth is the most important weapon any of us ever have.

My H didn't tell his family that he left us for 2 months. I had to threaten to tell them myself. He gave them the same sad story he gave his friends: "She's evil, controlling, a bitch. We haven't been happy in years. OW4 is my soulmate." All news to me. Now that we're back together, he's had to backtrack on his lies and tell the truth.

There's a reason for the saying "The truth will set you free." Lying just makes a bad situation worse.

Your explanation is perfect. Short, to the point. And it's the TRUTH. You aren't being judgmental, you're just stating the facts. That's gracious and totally above board. It's kind of amazing how cheating spouses are so proud of their AP but, when the truth comes forth, they don't like the truth being told.