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tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 4:55 PM on Saturday, June 15th, 2013
I ran a 5K this morning. I did this race last year in the middle of some epic ex-shat asshattery and so I found a lot of those memories coming back. I felt myself falling back into the person I used to be and almost left the race and went home! 
I didn't. Sat down and stretched and had a nice conversation with a lady there watching her son run. During the race, I saw the lady I met at the beach this past week...she and her son were handing out water...so I made sure to say hi to her...because that's how normal people interact! 
Then after the race, forced myself to hang out for awhile and here is the neat moment. The last walkers were coming in and the DJ changed songs and started playing a very mushy love song. This older guy and lady were walking toward the finish line (50's). He stops her. Makes her face him...the crowd is gathering around. He gets down on one knee and pulls a ring out and asks her to marry him. He's crying, she's crying. She says yes. He picks her up and carries her across the finish line.
It was the sweetest thing. If that had happened last year, I would not have been able to take it. But this year, it just made me happy and gave me hope.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 4:58 PM on Saturday, June 15th, 2013
How cool is that?!
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 4:59 PM on Saturday, June 15th, 2013
Awwwww. That is a wonderful story. I have tears in my eyes. 
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 5:08 PM on Saturday, June 15th, 2013
Failure is success if we learn from it.
Must Survive ( member #34533) posted at 5:22 PM on Saturday, June 15th, 2013
Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorced-Let my new beginning start
They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 5:36 PM on Saturday, June 15th, 2013
Wow
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 5:40 PM on Saturday, June 15th, 2013
add me to the list of people crying...
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 5:53 PM on Saturday, June 15th, 2013
I'm glad I had sunglasses on because I was bawling.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
aLadypilot ( member #1822) posted at 6:05 PM on Saturday, June 15th, 2013
Divorced 9/2010
Just married 7/4/13
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 6:12 PM on Saturday, June 15th, 2013
Awww!
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 6:19 PM on Saturday, June 15th, 2013
Awww tesla that is awesome and thank you for sharing. I have tears in my eyes too.
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 7:21 PM on Saturday, June 15th, 2013
'sniff' 'sniff' such an awesome moment. Thanks for sharing with us.
Gives me hope too.
Hugs,
K
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 9:55 PM on Saturday, June 15th, 2013
That's very cool !
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
fallingquickly ( member #36599) posted at 10:03 PM on Saturday, June 15th, 2013
Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)
I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken
There came a point when it was too painful to love him, so I stopped.
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 10:20 PM on Saturday, June 15th, 2013
Aw, teary here, too. Love it!
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 3:01 AM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
I just got the chills. That's amazing.
There's one old standard that I've always loved (even though it didn't apply to me... maybe it will some day?), and this proposal made me think of it:
"The Second Time Around"
Love is lovelier the second time around
Just as wonderful with both feet on the ground
It's that second time you hear your love song sung
Makes you think perhaps that love, like youth, is wasted on the young
Love's more comfortable the second time you fall
Like a friendly home the second time you call
Who can say what brought us to this miracle we've found?
There are those who'll bet love comes but once and yet
I'm oh so glad we met the second time around
Who can say what brought us to this miracle we've found
There are those who'll bet love comes but once and yet
I'm oh so glad we met the second time around
May we all have a second time around.
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 5:15 AM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
Aww, I'm glad you stuck with it and also stuck around for that moment that didn't make you feel bad this time.
Also glad you did what "normal" people do! 
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 6:29 AM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
Oh man - I can so relate to that.
In the early days I used to move tables when intact families sat near me. I hated that their happiness made me sneer.
Now I try to sit close to them. I bask in their happiness and share mine with them. I do get still get misty eyed when I see what I never had - teamwork, affection, a man simply enjoying his family. There are people out there who enjoy their family as much as I do.
These moments make me hopeful too.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 1:27 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
That is super classy!
Glad you hung in there Tesla. Congrats on the 5K!
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
MyVoice ( member #35695) posted at 2:56 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
Beautiful
Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown
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