So, i discovered my husband had visted a prostitute for oral sex less than 6 months after we got married about 5 weeks ago. We both wanted to reconcile, we have sinve had two beautiful babkes (girl 2.5 years and boy just turned 1 year a few days ago). (We've been married for 4 years.) There have been issues throughout the relationship with overuse of online porn, but I had no idea he'd actually turned the fantasy into reality unti a few short weeks afo.
Anyway, I digress....until abfew days ago, he appeared to be a model for reconciliation but now it turns out that I have some kind of time limit to my 'getting over it' and 'moving on from it'.
It makes me so sad to feel like such an idiot. I really believed him when he said he wukd do whatever it took to make things better.Now it feels like he's vocalised whatever he thought he should to try and repair thhings, rather than mean them.
He says he's struggling to cope with me being distant and not as empathetic as I usd to be when he was suffering from work related stress, but it's still too soon and too raw after learing what he did to be even close to 'normal'.
I'm pretty sure that if you're really sorry for what you've done that you'd acept there is going to be an ongoing period of time were things are really rough but he thinks we should just be 'moving forward'.
In the time since he told me the truth about the prostitute I've had meningitis and been in hospital for 5 days, only just recovered and he's already pi55ed at me for still being unsure/scared/frightened about reconciliation and if he truly means it...it just doesn't feel right.
Does anyone have any advice...????
