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Hope24 (original poster member #9344) posted at 2:27 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
I was in line at the grocery store this morning and there was a hot 40-something guy ahead of me buying "Alimony Ale". I couldn't come up with an opening line, so I blew the perfect opportunity. Gah! 
Maybe if I wasn't wearing yoga pants with my hair in a pony tail I would have been more inspired. 
She packed up her potential and all she had learned and headed out to change a few things.
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 2:32 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
yeah. Us guys expect the wimmenz in the grocery to be there in an evening gown with perfect hair. 
Go for it next time!
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 3:44 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 4:39 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
You should have put your Rat Bastard bottle of wine on the counter and nodded at him.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 4:40 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
So what would you have said?
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
Hope24 (original poster member #9344) posted at 5:33 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
She packed up her potential and all she had learned and headed out to change a few things.
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 6:09 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
OnceInALifetime ( member #26023) posted at 6:30 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
Perfect, Kajem!!!
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 8:21 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
I would love to tell you that you should have gone for it, but that would make me a total hypocrite. As soon as I can start making eye contact with a single man for more than 1/26th of a second, then maybe I can start doling out relationship advice. 
I love the name of that ale! I should have gotten some for the g2g.
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 8:29 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
t/j
I thought it was "Fat Bastard"...or am I having a blond moment?
I do tend to buy wine because I like the name 
end of t/j
I try very hard to just speak to men in all situations. Practicing not shutting down instantly because I was used to being in "married mode" for so long. It is hard to do!
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 8:33 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
It is Fat Bastard.
That name doesn't make me think of wine, though. It makes me think of Mike Myers's disgusting Scottish character from Austin Powers.
Perhaps someone on SI could start a Rat Bastard Winery?
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 9:44 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
Sorry kids, it's a root beer:
But you could get some of this:
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
Hope24 (original poster member #9344) posted at 3:19 AM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Great ideas! I will have to hide the grocery list from the kids next week.
She packed up her potential and all she had learned and headed out to change a few things.
itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 2:57 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
They do make "Arrogant Bastard". I think it's an IPA, but I could be wrong.
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 4:36 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Mmmmmm Arrogant Bastard! My favorite. I gotta get me some of this Alimony Ale, I wonder if it's a bitter beer oy a yummy malty one?
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 4:40 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Arrogant Bastard is yummy!
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Shockleader ( member #36827) posted at 4:59 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
I try very hard to just speak to men in all situations. Practicing not shutting down instantly because I was used to being in "married mode" for so long. It is hard to do!
Spot on, just substitute "speak to women". I am however, finding it easier, and easier. 
D-Day spring 2012
Me BS 53
Xcheater... Who cares.
One DD 25
Married 23 years
Divorced 12/23/13 Fu*king A!
The cruel, the unkind, those without honor, feast on the tender heart...
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 7:15 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
I'm good at making remarks to people I don't know. I think i would have asked if he was buying it to celebrate or drown his sorrows. But, then, I more than likely wouldn't even have noticed what he had. BUT, if I had........
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 7:21 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
I would love to tell you that you should have gone for it, but that would make me a total hypocrite. As soon as I can start making eye contact with a single man for more than 1/26th of a second, then maybe I can start doling out relationship advice.
Me too, trying. Me too.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 7:26 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Haha. As of to prove my point, the guy who came in and sat almost at my table at the place I am having a late lunch and reading on here turned around and jumped when he saw me here. He was on his phone when he came in and sat there. I was just hitting send when he said he didn't realize anyone else was around as he spoke loudly on his phone. ( I was reading and paid no attention to his convo)
I said it's ok. I've only been here a half hour. Then he asked if I thought it is as warm in here as he thought. I told him it's more likely warm from being embarrassed! He apologized profusely and left with a warning not to text and drive. 
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
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