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okaynow ( member #13813) posted at 7:53 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
(((NIK))) Sending prayers for peace for you and your dad.
Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
D-day: 2/18/07.
1 child
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 11:15 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
Thank you all. You would think that having years to prepare would make this easier, but it really doesn't.
It doesn't help in this moment, no. I have found that it eased things afterward. That sounds weird, but I feel like it has made the grieving afterward easier. (easier being a relative term - none of it is easy) I feel like I came to acceptance a lot sooner than I would have if my father's death was sudden.
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
Mrs Panda ( member #27303) posted at 12:17 AM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
Oh honey, hugs to you. Hospice care will give your Dad some comfort and rest and I believe they can come out 24/7.
I have worked with some hospice patients in my line of work, and the experience to provide dignity at the end of
life is wonderful.
Again, hugs.
Me-48 FWW Him 51BH
M 20 years,. Fully Reconciled ❤️.
DDay#1 Nov 2008
DDay#2 Aug 2009 (Prior A from 2001)
"Those who believe in telekinetics, raise my hand." -Kurt Vonnegut
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 12:19 AM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
Oh honey, I am so sorry.
Knowing it's coming doesn't make it easier. There's just no way to truly prepare for something like this.
(((((Empress and family)))))
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
million pieces ( member #27539) posted at 12:20 AM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
((((((((NIK and family)))))))))
Me - 52 D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later, Divorced 11/15/11!!!!
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 12:23 AM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 12:40 AM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
(((Nik))) (((Nik'sParents)))
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
jjsr ( member #34353) posted at 2:08 AM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
I am sorry. Sending you good thoughts during this time
Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.
TrulyReconciled ( member #3031) posted at 3:45 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
I'm sorry NIK. After all you've been through ... 
Peace to all.
"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."
BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 3:47 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
Faithful w/Love ( member #33128) posted at 4:02 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
I am so sorry Nik.
Hospice is wonderful. I heart if heavy for your dad also. My heart is heavy for you and your family. I do understand what you are going thru. I am here if you ever need a friend.
BS(ME)41 WH(HIM)38
DD 21 and DS 16
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:49 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
I'm so sorry. I wish hugs and comfort for your Mom and Dad and you.
When it's time, it's best for your Mom - that doesn't help the survivors much, though.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
stupidstupidme ( member #11888) posted at 4:53 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel, as a reminder of your strength
August Wilson
MissesJai ( member #24849) posted at 6:33 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
OMG (((NIK))) my heart breaks for you and your dad. Sending you prayers for comfort.
44
Happily divorcing..
My Life is Mine!!!!
#BlackLivesMatter
Don't settle for no fuck shit....
cass ( member #24261) posted at 11:06 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
(((NIK)))
It's so hard, I'm so sorry
DDay - April 2008
Me - 58 and doing great, alone.
Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket!
NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 11:25 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
NIK, I am so so sorry. Sending you and your family hugs and positive thoughts......((((NIK and family))))
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
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