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 simplydevastated (original poster member #25001) posted at 2:13 PM on Friday, June 21st, 2013

Why would a daughter do this to her own father?

http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/world-war-ii-vet-92-evicted-ohio-home-article-1.1377922

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Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
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Waiting4Daylite ( member #36213) posted at 2:43 PM on Friday, June 21st, 2013

This is simply horrific. I can't even comprehend how a daughter or son can do this to a parent.

This is just so so sad.

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 simplydevastated (original poster member #25001) posted at 3:11 PM on Friday, June 21st, 2013

I know. I always thought that the children were supposed to take care of their parents. I'm glad he has his granddaughter.

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Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)

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Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 5:57 PM on Friday, June 21st, 2013

You don't know the actual circumstances or their relationship; obviously, there is bad blood over the autistic son; there could have been abuse or neglect involved.

The X's father was a WWII vet;he was a sick, twisted, miserable excuse for a human being. He was also a retired railroad man-I won't incite a potential war with any good railroad people but I know enough to have a bad feeling about this situation.

[This message edited by Sad in AZ at 11:57 AM, June 21st (Friday)]

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Bobbi_sue ( member #10347) posted at 6:55 PM on Friday, June 21st, 2013

I would not want to downplay the fact it is horrific when children treat their elderly parents badly, or with disrespect, but like Sad in AZ, after reading the article, I think it is very likely there is more than one side to this story. The media and the granddaughter presented his side and they drew enough sympathy to raise a lot of money, but I would really want more details about the custody battles, the austistic son, etc. before I would make any judgment.

[This message edited by Bobbi_sue at 12:56 PM, June 21st (Friday)]

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Want2help ( member #20547) posted at 5:01 AM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013

My uncle just did this to my grandmother. She didn't own the house, she rented it from my uncle's mother in law almost 20 years ago.

My uncle and his wife inherited it almost 10 years ago. They are very well off financially, but decided they want the money they'll make off the property, so they evicted her.

My grandmother wasn't the best mother when she was young, but she is not a bad person (she raised me for much of my life) and did nothing to deserve this.

Sometimes all people see are dollar signs.

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F(serial)WS/BS- him.

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solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 3:37 PM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013

Yes, there's likely more to the story.

So what?

What about ANYTHING--as relates to the mentioned autistic son---gave the daughter the right to transfer a home into HER name while her father was ill and fail to so inform him of the transfer (and REVERSE the transaction) when he recovered?

What about ANY relationship made it okay to withhold that information until the statute of limitations expired?

What made it okay for them to withhold the information that the man did not even own his own house until eviction was threatened?

Sorry. I don't care how intrusive the old man was, vis-a-vis his desire to be involved with his autistic son. Really, NOTHING about that relationship is germane to the situation.

They do not have the right to exploit the man, period. I'm rather shocked at the seeming, "Well,he must've deserved it" attitude.

I watched, hands tied, as my elderly and ill mother was egregiously exploited by her father and an adult nephew. The resources for elder abuse intervention are pathetically limited, and legal recourse grievously inadequate. Make the mistake of trusting the wrong person, and you're screwed, if you're an elder in this country. "Our hands our tied" is a piss-poor excuse; it's time for some REAL changes to be made.

BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams

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