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If she is coming as a suggested friend, it could be because you are searching for her or she is friends with your WH or mutual friends of you and your WH.

Do yourself a favour and block her, she doesn't deserve any space in your head.

I think you have it backwards. If she comes up after you put in the first two or three letters of her name in a search, it's because you have been looking her up, not the other way around.

Nobody can tell if you are looking at their page/profile.

Block, block, block.

I understand the urge to put up pix w/XW, however, do you really want OW having pix of you?

This topic so messed with my head that I finally deleted my face book account altogether. When photos of my child and my life's events appeared with her name linked to STBXH's, I was done. And when our deceased dog showed up on her page at my house, I was livid. When photos of STBX's b'days that I threw him showed up on her page and I took the pictures, I was also done.

You know, after I deleted my page, within the next month or so, I started getting call-hang ups in the middle of the night. When I casually mentioned this to Perv and the advice the police gave me, it stopped.

I'm on the team saying just block her or delete your page-be strong and don't get sucked in to their crap.

It also really helped me detatch from looking, because I was borderline OCD looking to see what he was doing-now I can't and I'm so relieved not to know.

Also, the thoughts about leaving a window open for OW to look in on your life is true and it's terrible.

It only took a couple weeks to get used to not going to FB at all and I am so relieved not to be part of anything they are. They made life such an unreality there that the only way to get control for me was to get off.

And if she/they can steal my pictures, what else could they get hold of, for any of us?

Stop letting her rule your life. BLOCK!!!! She is not worth any second of your time or energy.

I know because of FB's suggested friends. And if I go to search and type in the first letter of her name, she pops up before my actual friends do.... Something to do with FB's algorithms and tracking info.

Yeah, that happens when you or someone in your household has been looking her up, not the other way around.

I could care less if xOW is looking at my page (we have a couple mutual friends) - nothing but happy on my page - happy times with H, my kids and grandkids - photo bombs everywhere. Not to piss her off, but for my f&f to enjoy. If she wants to torture herself, so be it.

nothing but happy on my page - happy times with H, my kids and grandkids - photo bombs everywhere. Not to piss her off, but for my f&f to enjoy. If she wants to torture herself, so be it.

Exactly my post too. Look all you want, my life is coming back together, we're happy and I'm not going to hide. If she wants to torture herself, then let her.

I think everyone has their thoughts on FB etc. I think if it detracts from healing or causes pain, then block, block and block. But if you reach a point, that it doesn't hurt you, then who cares, let them look all they want.

She already has hundreded of pictures of the inside of my house, I don't care what she sees. I don't post anything on FB that I wouldn't want my own mother or priest to look at.

She already has hundreded of pictures of the inside of my house, I don't care what she sees. I don't post anything on FB that I wouldn't want my own mother or priest to look at.

Amen (pun intended)!

There might be something tho to the "suggested friends" fb often throws out.....

ya think?

As others stated: My FB is for my friends and family...If the Psycho OW wants to bother checking my FB; then she can just see happy photos of my family, our home, and our fun trips. It's her loss - and NO! She didn't get my life!!

Unless she found another man to rent her an apartment out of the ghetto; and buy her a computer - she probably doesn't have access to the internet anyway!

I agree with Tired. Load up your page with pictures of you and your loving, devoted spouse and let her stew in her own hate.

I've been doing this as long as I've had FB (since about 2008, I think).

I have few privacy settings and I don't block anyone because I figure if they want to see it bad enough, they will find a way. I think the best philosophy is to only post stuff that you don't mind if the whole world sees on FB and that includes potential enemies, OWs, stalkers, etc.

So I post pictures and positive things. If I'm going somehwere, I report it after the fact (if it is something I want to tell about) rather than announce to the world that I'm not home, making me a target for who-knows-what.

Sorry I hadn't come back to the thread in a bit.

I know because she and my WH share an OC, and she called him about a photo I had posted with our kids in the bathtub demanding to have me take it down. It is mostly private, except sometimes I forget to change the privacy settings when posting from my iPhone. I don't give shit who sees what I post - it's FACEBOOK for Pete's sake. I just find it sad for her.