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risingfromashes (original poster member #3903) posted at 3:55 AM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013
Offer on my house. Happy that I can move on. I know this is my new beginning and the right and only road I should be traveling on...But I brought my babies home here. I lived here for almost half of my life.
I am relieved, devastated, sad and crying. This has not happened in a long time. Shocked by my reaction. Just when you think you have recovered some errant emotion takes a brick and hits you upside your head.
MyReturn2Me ( member #34352) posted at 4:08 AM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013
Me: BS 51 and Freaking AWESOME!
Him: Who the fuck cares........
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 5:08 AM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013
gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 7:11 AM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013
I felt similar about the marital house I left 10 mo ago.
Ft and I met there, married in the backyard,raised his son and my daughter there, and brought two of our grandsons there after their births. So much history in 30 yrs. It was fitting we divorced while we still lived there.
I will say I couldn't have moved forward if I remained there.
Hugs the memories will alway be special and now you will create new ones in your new home.
Big Hugs !!!!!
Gma
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 7:43 AM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013
It's something that hit me too - especially the last time I left the house after moving out.
It was our marital home for 9 years - which is not as long as you had but it still hit me.
I agree with gma - it's hard but it's an important step in moving forward. But it is yet another loss to mourn as you do so. (( Hugs))
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
macakipa ( member #33735) posted at 3:05 PM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013
(((rising)))
I know I will be experiencing the same thing when I leave this house at the end of next year.
This house was the first one during our entire marriage that we were in longer than 4 years (due to job promotions and relocations). I finally have the kitchen of my dreams...
But you know what, even though I know I will grieve, I am actually looking forward to those after feelings of peace and letting go.
You will soon be feeling this too. Congratulations on the offer and cheers to your moving forward!
M -25 years, T - 31 years, 4 children
Dday October 8, 2011 - Multiple PAs and ONs
Divorced 1-8-13
"When you give a lot of importance to someone in your life, you lose your importance in their life."
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 4:49 PM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013
Been there, done that, it's very tough. Big hugs, you'll get through this and move on.
FF
[This message edited by FaithFool at 10:49 AM, June 23rd (Sunday)]
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Helen of Troy ( member #26419) posted at 5:06 PM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013
It's ok to be sad about this. It's ok to grieve, even for a house.
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 8:04 PM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013
I wasn't in my marital home as long as you, but I felt the same way when we foreclosed. There were so many dreams and plans that never happened.
Failure is success if we learn from it.
fallingquickly ( member #36599) posted at 8:34 PM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013
FWIW, I've lived in many places as I followed my WH around for his career. There was sadness each time I left one of those places for the last time, even when we were moving someplace exciting. It's the closing of a chapter. It's sad even without all the bad things going on in our lives. I think the sad ending likely makes it a bit worse though. I guess I'll find out when I sell the house we own now. The last house we will ever live in together in a 27 year marriage.
Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)
I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken
There came a point when it was too painful to love him, so I stopped.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:25 AM on Monday, June 24th, 2013
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
nutmegkitty ( member #33882) posted at 4:41 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2013
Me - happy!
2 DDs
Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.
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