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Reconciliation :
everything wedding related makes me cry

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 hobbeskat (original poster member #38805) posted at 9:12 PM on Tuesday, June 25th, 2013

My H cheated on 5 months after our wedding. We've now been married 10 months and everything wedding related makes me cry. I did training today and had to go out and compose myself because someone there was getting married in 2 months. That was me a year ago and I was so hopeful and happy. Then on the train home I heard someone planning her hen night. My sister put so much effort into mine, even got us tshirts. And one hangs in the OWs bedroom because she was one of my hens and best friends.

I feel overcome with grief that seems neverending. It makes me want to run. I don't know how to cope with this anymore.

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CatchyUsername ( member #39415) posted at 9:24 PM on Tuesday, June 25th, 2013

This is so tough! The A happened many many years after our wedding and any mention of weddings still bothers me. I had to spend last weekend celebrating WHs parents 50th wedding anniversary. I took a lot of long walks by myself. (((Hugs)))

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 11:09 PM on Tuesday, June 25th, 2013

Being betrayed brings a lot of grief IME. A lot. A whole lot.

My approach was to feel it and let it out in the hope that it would eventually end, and that seems to be happening. At 2 1/2 years out, I still feel grief from the A, but it's not so frequent or heavy that I can tell you how often.

So the bad news is that letting the grief go may take you a long time, but the good news is that it does end.

(((hobbeskat)))

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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sodamnlost ( member #37190) posted at 2:27 AM on Wednesday, June 26th, 2013

I can't even imagine it that close to your wedding :-(

I shoot weddings and WH second shoots them with me - some are fine - some - I want to DIE.

Me - BS original Dday 10-2012, separated June 2014, divorce Fall 2016


Grief, loss and pain taunt her - "you will never be the same." Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she rises and spreads her new wings as she brushes off the ashes an

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