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doggiemom12 ( member #36041) posted at 1:52 AM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013
So very sorry to hear this. You don't say so but I am getting the feeling he ended his own life.
My STBX killed himself last September. I had moved out almost a year before. We were still legally married so I had to deal with it all. I never felt any guilt - he was bipolar and not treated and he really went off the rails.
This will still be a difficult time for you even though you don't have to deal with the day to day fall out. Your children will have a bad time too. Get some counseling for them and yourself. It is ok to feel relief - I certainly did and I feel alot safer now. It is nice to know I will never run into him again.
Try and get some peace about it although that will take awhile. It is a real body blow. Be patient with yourself. You are in shock right now.
You will be in my prayers.
White bird must fly or she will die . . .
jjsr ( member #34353) posted at 1:59 AM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013
Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.
dreamlife ( member #8142) posted at 4:17 AM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013
I'm so sorry.
Wishing you strength.
((((huge hugs)))) 
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)
m334455 ( member #26893) posted at 5:04 AM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013
I wish I could give you a hug right now.
I'm sorry for your loss, your childrens' loss, for everything that happened that shouldn't have and didn't happen that should have.
18 years is a very long time. Be gentle with yourself while you grieve.
BW 38, 5 kids
Dday Dec. 2009
Blackhair ( member #39451) posted at 9:21 AM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013
So sorry ! I had tears in my eyes reading your post!
Big Hug!
M: 10 years both late 40s.
3 Children
DDay: April 2013
Legally separated on Oct 2013.
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!
npain ( member #33539) posted at 6:09 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013
So very sorry. Much hugs to you and your children.
S, Filed 4/17/14--YAY, ME!!
Coraline ( member #36434) posted at 6:41 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013
Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 7:48 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013
(((ssm and kids))) I'm so sorry; the conflicting emotions must be so confusing.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
fraeuken ( member #30742) posted at 8:56 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013
I am so sorry. I think many of us here get how you feel, I think I would feel very similarly.
Hugs to your children.
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
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