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lost_in_toronto ( member #25395) posted at 3:35 PM on Friday, June 28th, 2013
I'm sorry, but I agree that he is not telling you the truth. Either he is still having the affair, or there is information that about it that he does not want you to have.
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realitybites ( member #6908) posted at 5:05 PM on Friday, June 28th, 2013
What he is telling you in a backwards way is he is GOING to have to move out after the poly because more stuff will come out.
Are you prepared for that? Meaning what are your boundries if he fails the poly? Lets think about that.
Stop expecting loyalty from people who cannot even give you honesty.
He stopped being my husband the first time he cheated. It took me awhile to understand that I was no longer his wife.
crazycatlady ( member #12849) posted at 8:08 PM on Friday, June 28th, 2013
Two points:
1. He should be ready and willing to take the polygraph if he has nothing to hide.
2. Placing guilt on you for wanting him to take it means he is lying and manipulative.
My advice? Tell him to skip the poly, make him move out, see a lawyer, and finally buy a damn beautiful purse and celebrate.
Love all, trust a few. Do wrong to none.William Shakespeare "All's Well That Ends Well"D-Day: Nov 30, 2006"For I have sworn thee fair, and thought thee bright, who art as black as hell, as dark as night." William Shakespeare
jb3199 ( member #27673) posted at 12:03 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013
why on earth would he say "I'll take the test, then I will move out"
Simple---because he is not remorseful.
He very well may have told you everything now(although I doubt it), but he doesn't get it. He sure as hell isn't going to put your feelings in front of his.
So what do you do from here?
Continue with your personal healing. Emotionally detach from him until he commits to you and the marriage. Believe me, you will know when his remorse comes from the heart. You will not have to search for it.
Ask yourself--do you really want to live with someone who treats you with such disrespect?
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All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary PuckettD-Day(s): EnoughAccepting that I can/may end this marriage 7/2/14
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