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HopeFloats2272 (original poster member #39264) posted at 6:27 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
It's quite possible that this has been mentioned here before but I'm new and haven't been able to read all 5,273,821 posts yet...but I plan to... 
FYI: for those of you that want to contact the AP's BS and the only way to contact them is through Facebook messaging be advised that they may not get the message in their normal inbox. FB has an "other" inbox (like spam) that messages are sent to if you two don't have any mutual friends. Unlike the normal inbox, there aren't any notifications indicating that there are new messages in the "other" inbox.
You'd be surprised what you'll find in there if you've never checked (especially if its a message from a BS.) I sent one shortly after DDay and nothing but crickets. I figured they were dealing with it on their own and that was fine by me (their A had been over for a year and a half when I found out about it.) Almost 2 months after I sent the message I was informed of this "other" inbox. I check mine out and "wow!" there is a year old message from someone in Canada working on her family tree and she thinks we might be related! (Not where you thought the story was going, was it? : ) It hits me a day later that the BH never got my message. I didn't attempt to contact him after that because I just didn't want another human being to be in the sh*t-hole that I was in. (I'm gonna take cover from all the stones that are going to come my way : )
To find this inbox you need to be on the "full site" version not moblie. On the left side column you will see "messages." Click on it. A window will pop up or a drop down menu will appear. Either way, there is a tab named "other." Click on it and hope there aren't any major surprises in there. Keep in mind that I haven't used the PC version in a long time and FB could have changed this feature making this post totally irrelevant.
BS- 40, WH 38Married 13yrs, 2 Sweet Boys-9 & 13DD#1: 1/10/12- 6mo EADD#2: 8/23/12-1PA, 2ONS in 2010 and 1EA/PA in 2004DD#3: 9/10/12- ONS w/friend in 2010Lots of other crap and TT Divorcing....finally.
Want2help ( member #20547) posted at 8:10 PM on Monday, July 1st, 2013
This is so true.
However, Facebook is rolling out a new feature in which you can pay $1 to ensure that the message goes to the INBOX, not the "other" box.
I tried it, and it works.
FBS/WS- me.
F(serial)WS/BS- him.
Madhatters. More Ddays than birthdays, at this point. His OC, my OC...
UPDATE: Divorcing after almost 20 years.
HopeFloats2272 (original poster member #39264) posted at 12:19 AM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2013
Good to know, Want2Help.
Do you know if the $1 fee includes the sender and receiver?
BS- 40, WH 38Married 13yrs, 2 Sweet Boys-9 & 13DD#1: 1/10/12- 6mo EADD#2: 8/23/12-1PA, 2ONS in 2010 and 1EA/PA in 2004DD#3: 9/10/12- ONS w/friend in 2010Lots of other crap and TT Divorcing....finally.
hitbyatruck ( member #23769) posted at 12:48 AM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2013
No stones coming from me. I am wondering if someday he will eventually find it.
Married 1998. 2 kids. First discovery 3/2009. Multiple affairs, porn addiction. one failed attempt at R. Nested for over a year. Divorce final 8/2015. XH is now married. I am engaged!
cuppacoffee ( member #39313) posted at 1:44 AM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2013
When I contact the BBF it will be through FB because I can't find his email other than that. That is what I"m afraid of as well. ugh!
I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you
Eudaimonia ( member #32445) posted at 3:06 AM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2013
Ahhh, now that explains why nothing ever came of the one BS I was able to message on FB years ago. I always just assumed his wife found it first and deleted it!
So long, and thanks for all the fish!
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