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Father of the year... not

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She11ybeanz ( member #27457) posted at 2:34 PM on Monday, July 8th, 2013

What an ASSHOLE!!! Poor baby banana!!! I just want to huggle her...

"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12

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ajsmom ( member #17460) posted at 3:46 PM on Monday, July 8th, 2013

And he does it again!

So why am I not shocked?

Grrr...what a douche.

AJ's MOM

Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
One AMAZING DS - 34

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NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 10:51 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

Aawwwww What an ass. I'm so sorry your babies have to deal with an idiot for a father.

Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

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Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 11:12 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

3 strikes, right??

I'm literally angry/crying right now.

Baby Banana is so sweet and kind.... this effing sucks.

Thank GOD for you, wildbananas. Your kids have love and stability in abundance from you. More than enough to make up for asshat.

URGH!!!

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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IrishLass518 ( member #34373) posted at 11:28 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

As awful as it all is, this is probably best in the long run for all of you bananas. He can't even be grown up enough to be a father to is children? Then he shouldn't be. You are all better off without his drama.

Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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 wildbananas (original poster member #10552) posted at 6:32 AM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013

Thank you, all... she's trying to stay happy and positive but it's eating at her. Poor thing, I wish I could make it better for her. She really is such a joy. All the girls are.

He has no idea what he's missing.

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 2:52 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013

He has no idea what he's missing.

No he doesn't. And it truly is his loss.

DD22 (has not talked to her father in a year) told me the other day - she feels better about herself than she has in a long long time and she realized that she doesn't need him in her life. She is also OK - no better than OK because she isn't waiting for the other shoe to drop like it always seems to with XH.

She wondered if she was addicted to the drama that XH/NW bring? I think so... Thank God she sees this.. because the drama he caused.. was affecting the serenity in my space. I HATED that.

WB.. I am hoping your girls (whom all sound lovely) get some drama free time and space to see just how toxic his koolaid can be.

Hugs for you, cause it is so hard to be the stable parent and watch the push away/draw in games happen. I feel for you.

More hugs for you girls too.

K

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Snapdragon ( member #4286) posted at 4:29 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013

The fact that he considers it *his* home and not *their* home (as a family) tells me everything I need to know about him. Asswipe.

Divorced - recovered and hoping to help.

"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink

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MoeGreen63 ( member #6832) posted at 7:42 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013

He's decided to pass on the best thing about being alive. His loss.

She'll be fine and one day she'll even forgive him, but he'll never get back these precious moments in time that he's chosen to miss.

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