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Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 9:18 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013
(((((crush3d)))))
My god. It breaks my heart to read this...this isn't supposed to happen to R'd SI old-timers. 
Sending you strength and peace - you know where we "live" and as you know, we'll be here for you...
I'm so, so sorry...
Lala
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2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
1Faith ( member #38975) posted at 9:52 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013
So sorry you find yourself here again.
It is completely unfair and is just plain awful.
May you find strength to live a life that you deserve. One based on honesty, truth and genuine love.
We are all here and rooting for you.
Stay strong.
(((hugs)))
Sometimes my life feels like a test I didn't study for
bluewater ( member #9297) posted at 10:04 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013
crushed3d I remember your username and story from your first time around. Funny how some stories just stick out and stay with you.
Needless to say I am really sorry to hear that she did this again.
Peace and strength to you.
redrock ( member #21538) posted at 10:30 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013
crushed3d I remember your username and story from your first time around. Funny how some stories just stick out and stay with you.
Me too.
Her sobbing reply was "Don't look... please, don't look..."
Such a sad, pathetic choice. Throwing aside a man of strength and character for the one that caused terrible injuries to her body (and marriage).
Adding my voice to those that are so sorry this happened again.
I don't respect anyone that can't spell a word more than one way:)
crush3d (original poster member #17977) posted at 1:52 AM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
Wow... again, this site is just amazing to me. Thank you all for the support and strength your words lend me.
Aftermath Day 1 - work was busy, thankfully. Kept me mostly distracted. The odd song would play on the radio that that would trip me up a bit, but no visible (at least outwardly) breakdowns.
Now I'm at home... recovering from a good bawl. Is it odd that I got more emotional sending her parents a lengthy thank-you/goodbye email than when I ended it with her over the phone? Weird stuff, I tell you...
Someone asked earlier about no-fault state, etc... I'm in Canada, actually. And from what I've been able to tell, the province I'm in doesn't have any at-fault provisions for divorce proceedings.
In any case, that backup info is there if I need it until I pay to access it and delete it myself. I really don't want to have to do that, but if pressed, I will. And I kept copies of the evidence from the last runaround as well. I'm well equipped to deal with whatever craziness may come my way - but I'm honestly not expecting any.
Now I have to steel myself to break the news to my parents. This should be fun... I'll keep posting later. Need food first.
And kleenex... I seem to be running out of it quickly. 
BH 46 - Two 4-legged kids
Married 6 yrs - together 13
D-day #1 9/29/07
D-Day #2 07/01/13
Divorce finalized Sept 2014
toomanyregrets ( member #37740) posted at 1:59 AM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
I'm so sorry you have to go through this again.
Once is enough for anyone.
You'd think you WW would have learned something from before, but I guess not.
BH - 66 - Retired
fWW - 62
"Affairs are not mistakes, they are a series of deliberate choices." - CrappyLife
"Regret is when you realize you broke your own heart.
Remorse is when you realize you broke someone else's." - Bla
AussieMum ( member #36579) posted at 2:18 AM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
I'm very sorry to read this, crush3d 
These cheaters are so heartless, so broken.
Sending you lots of strength, take care of yourself.
Me 47
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS13 & DD8)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14
rmhm97 ( new member #39789) posted at 3:49 AM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
I know all too well what you are going thru and my friend I wish you a speedy recovery back to a solid sense of self. For me, the emotional roller coaster is so hard to deal with and even tho it has happened twice now I did not see it coming either time. Strength and peace to you.
Me BS(49)
Her WW(39)
Married 16 years
D-day July 6th 2013
Day the fog lifted (each day is a step closer)
redrock ( member #21538) posted at 6:10 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
I made the assumption it was with the same OM. I apologize for my misdirected post.
Hope today is a better day.
Kate
I don't respect anyone that can't spell a word more than one way:)
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 6:17 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
((crus3d))
I'm also a member of the multiple D-Days club. It is truly soul crushing.
Hang in there.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
HurtButHoping12 ( member #34918) posted at 6:43 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
I'm so sorry :( I've had several D-Days and its just awful :( Stay strong!
BW (me):31
WH (guiltfilled11): 32
together 12 years, married 6 years
DDay: July 6th 2011
False R: beginning of August
True R until DDay 06/20 - talking to another girl and lying about it
Kids: DD 8, DS 6, DD 4
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