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PhoenixGirl (original poster member #34181) posted at 12:57 AM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
OK - just have to let loose a little. Background - almost 2 1/2 years out... fWH had A with an OW who works at the same hospital where he and I work. I confronted her about a year and a half ago when I ran into her in the parking lot (thankfully she works nights so I don't see her often) but anyway, SHE went to Human Resources about ME when this happened. Outrageous. So - I got a warning to ignore her.
Saw her this morning coming in. Let me just say that now, coming in to work is in itself a trigger because I know every day I might run into her. And every once in a while I do.
It throws off my day. It pisses me off. It makes me wonder why the hell he picked such a pinched face flouncing weasel of a woman to have an A with. I mean truly, what the hell did he see with her? She's heinous.
But everyone once in a while I need to come and post what a freakin' asshole thing it was not just to have an A, but to do it with someone I WORK WITH! I mean what the hell? There was no respect there whatsover. No thought of consequences of just how much that particular choice of an infidelity mate was even more f@#$#d up than most. Asshole! And then I have to come home and just live with the fact that when I see her, I can't even call her on what she did. All I can do is glare and be miserable and mad and sick and wonder what the hell I'm doing staying with someone who showed so little respect to me.
(Note - I do love this man and so far our R has been pretty decent - but whore sightings really throw me off!)
BS-Me(43)
fWH-(44)
DDay-3/11
The grief within me has its own heartbeat. It has its own life, its own song. Part of me wants to resist the rhythms of my grief, yet as I surrender to the song, I learn to listen deep within myself-Alan Wolfelt
painpaingoaway ( member #27196) posted at 1:22 AM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
I can't even call her on what she did.
That must be awful. I can't imagine. ((((PG))))
Humm...there must be a way...
D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
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Aussiescot ( member #39265) posted at 1:59 AM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
TOTALLY get it PG!!
You would think she would have up & gone by now AT LEAST! Wouldn't that be the most 'considerate' thing to do after such an 'inconsiderate' act of betrayal? Shakes head.....
I am really lucky that not only do I get the pleasure of seeing my FWS's whore almost every morning BUT she was considered a 'friend'!! I do believe they get off on this shit by throwing it in our faces
BS
4 DD's
DD April 2012 with a 'friend' of mine!
DD2 March 2014 prostitute! Unsure how many, told there was 1.......
Consistent porn
Done! 21.4.2015 took a while for it to sink in that this boy will never grow/up. Self absorbed POS!
PhoenixGirl (original poster member #34181) posted at 2:01 AM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
I keep wishing an anvil would fall out of a window onto her head like in RoadRunner but so far she's steered clear of falling objects.
BS-Me(43)
fWH-(44)
DDay-3/11
The grief within me has its own heartbeat. It has its own life, its own song. Part of me wants to resist the rhythms of my grief, yet as I surrender to the song, I learn to listen deep within myself-Alan Wolfelt
Aussiescot ( member #39265) posted at 2:13 AM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
If you can't call her out on it.........nothing against whistling the tune 'I'm an asshole' as you pass by
BS
4 DD's
DD April 2012 with a 'friend' of mine!
DD2 March 2014 prostitute! Unsure how many, told there was 1.......
Consistent porn
Done! 21.4.2015 took a while for it to sink in that this boy will never grow/up. Self absorbed POS!
Aussiescot ( member #39265) posted at 2:15 AM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
Ahh better still just SING it reeeally Louuuudly
BS
4 DD's
DD April 2012 with a 'friend' of mine!
DD2 March 2014 prostitute! Unsure how many, told there was 1.......
Consistent porn
Done! 21.4.2015 took a while for it to sink in that this boy will never grow/up. Self absorbed POS!
AussieMum ( member #36579) posted at 2:47 AM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
OW1 parks in the same carpark as me and we've often had to share the elevator down several floors. The first time we came face to face, she smiled at me and said 'how are you doing?'
She got crickets.
I dread getting into that elevator every morning.
Seeing them really does ruin your day - I hear you!
Me 47
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS13 & DD8)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14
Garnet ( member #39070) posted at 2:48 AM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
Well the whore in my life decided to get a job in the same school system as me. NOT MENTIONING IT AT ALL TO MY HUSBAND WHILE SHE WAS TALKING & TEXTING HIM 24/7!!! Stupid bitch WTF IS WRONG WITH THESE PATHETIC HEADCASE LOSER SKANKS ANYWAY??? Oh yea the suck!!!
PhoenixGirl (original poster member #34181) posted at 12:27 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
Garnet - I guess if there was nothing wrong with these loser skanks, they wouldn't be having A's with other people's husbands to begin with. There's something broken there. I just want to get this stupid bitch out of my head now.
Assiescot - how does that tune go?
BS-Me(43)
fWH-(44)
DDay-3/11
The grief within me has its own heartbeat. It has its own life, its own song. Part of me wants to resist the rhythms of my grief, yet as I surrender to the song, I learn to listen deep within myself-Alan Wolfelt
RidingHealingRd ( member #33867) posted at 12:30 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
whore sightings really throw me off!
Good one!
I cannot even imagine how any BS deals with whore sightings.
I made sure there would be none in my life...I moved 1600 miles away.
ME: 60 BS
HIM: 67 WH
Married: 35 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 10 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.
The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.
selkiescot ( member #23777) posted at 12:32 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
I cannot imagine the dread of facing that everyday. You must be very strong.
He chose a pinched weasel, because she was available and weak. They choose the most vulnerable in the herd.
The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
ME 57
WH 64
DDAYs TOO MANY
daughter 27
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.
shatteredheart7 ( member #39734) posted at 1:32 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
This post made me think of something that came into my head last night.
My H and the OW bowled together on the same league. Every Thursday night. Well, He quit that league and now he and I bowl together on Tuesday nights. AT THE SAME BOWLING ALLEY WHERE THEY MET! Last night on the way home, as we were passing her house GRRRR, I had a thought. We are always running into other people that he bowled with on Thurs. nights. They always ask, "So when are you coming back to the Thursday night league". He always says, "never" and leaves it at that. Well my thought is this... wonder what OW would do if H & I started bowling together on the Thursday night league. My thoughts are she would most likely quit. She can't stand to see us together and that would be the only way she could get away from me!
Yeah, I want to lash out at her and take away anything that makes her happy. All she has is bowling. Her kids have nothing to do with her, she has no true friends, she works from home doing accounting so she has no real work interactions. ALL she has is Thursday night bowling, with people she has bowled with for 10 yrs or longer. I use to see red and shake so bad that for 20-30 mins after seeing her I wouldn't know where I was or what I was doing, however, I have gotten a lot better with that. Now I usually just laugh at her because she is so stupid to actually think that he would ever leave me and marry her! I'm thinking that I could handle it, as long as H never went without me (which isn't really a problem, I always go with him now)
I doubt H would be up for this as he wants NC with her. But it is an interesting fantasy for me! LOL
I just imagine that seeing us so happy together once again really must get to them! Imagine how miserable that must make them feel!
Getting their just rewards!!!!!
Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!
Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 1:42 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
I keep wishing an anvil would fall out of a window onto her head like in RoadRunner but so far she's steered clear of falling objects
2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
Garnet ( member #39070) posted at 3:47 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
We know they are broken but trying to get them out of our heads is very difficult when you get to see them all the time!!! You would think they would be embarrassed for what they have done and find a job elsewhere .......not the whore in my world!!!!!! She is a smug f'n bitch to her core!!!
ifinallyfoundme ( member #39523) posted at 3:58 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
I know it's hard to not to be pissed, but try another approach. Make it a point to look like you've the most glorious morning sex when you see her. Smile, smell and look good, put on your best Hollywood sunglasses, and she will get the message. She knows seeing her pushes your buttons, so make it a point, that she sees you doing well.
PhoenixGirl (original poster member #34181) posted at 7:13 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
@Finally - I LOVE your suggestion. That's great. All - thanks so much - you all made me smile!
BS-Me(43)
fWH-(44)
DDay-3/11
The grief within me has its own heartbeat. It has its own life, its own song. Part of me wants to resist the rhythms of my grief, yet as I surrender to the song, I learn to listen deep within myself-Alan Wolfelt
heyjules2012 ( new member #38349) posted at 7:51 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
OMG, I ran into OW in front of the Redbox at Walmart on Memorial Day. Thank God my mom was with me and grabbed my arm because the rage that ran through my body was undescribable!! She looked back at me and walked away swaying her butt back & forth. I was very close to going to jail that day. My WH dealt with the after math that day~
BS(me)38 WH(him)38
D-Day 12/1/12
Together 15, married 11
Trying to R
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