So after posting on another thread last night about how I've been NC with STBX since Mother's Day and getting compliments on how well I'm doing, NC bit the dust today with disastrous results.
So STBX informs me today that he and the skankwhore are moving out of their basement apartment into a rental house on Aug. 1st. First of all, I should say that this apartment had no kitchen or laundry for two small children. He swore that the landlord was going to put in a kitchen and a washer/dryer. Well, four months later, nothing has been done. Duh, I told him he should have found a place that at least had a kitchen! So they needed to find a new place.
So now he informs me that the rental has a pool, with no pool fence! We have a 10 month old son who is crawling and will be walking soon. I told him that this was a deal breaker and that he and whore needed to find a safe home for the kids to stay at (I called him). He basically told me to eff off and that it was none of my business. He later texted and said that he would take care of getting a pool fence, just like he was going to take care of getting a kitchen in the old place. Pool fences are not cheap and STBX does not have the money for one. Also, I'm guessing the landlord doesn't want to pay for one as I doubt he and skankwhore mentioned having kids their sometimes.
The thing is, it's actually illegal in my state to have a pool at a home without a barricade if their are children under 6 living there. I'm calling my attorney tomorrow for guidance in this.
After the call, we just exchanged a few angry texts and got nowhere. I've been crying for the past hour.
All I want is to parent with him as peacefully as possible. He lives his life and I live mine. How can I do that when he can't even provide a safe home for my children! I know that skankwhore was the one that wanted this house and he doesn't have the balls to tell her no because it's not safe. Before any of this happened he would have totally been on my side. We bought a home with a pool and no fence a few years ago. We delayed our move in until we could get a pool fence installed.
Why oh why are we forced to patent with these selfish assholes!
[This message edited by newlysingle at 10:40 PM, July 10th (Wednesday)]
BW - Me (40)
XWH -The Gnat
"Engaged" to OW, but the wedding appears to be indefinitely postponed.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (8), 1 DS (3)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13