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nutmegkitty (original poster member #33882) posted at 1:15 AM on Friday, July 12th, 2013
So, a guy "liked" my picture. I got the email this morning. quickly glanced at his profile and thought ok, I'll stcik my neck out and say hello.
Cant access Match from work, so I sit down tonight, log on, and his profile is unavailable. Cold feet? Drunken regret? Found his soulmate?
I don't get it.
I think I'm ditching Match and going to P.O.N. with OIAL.
Me - happy!
2 DDs
Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 1:20 AM on Friday, July 12th, 2013
Ok, I am laughing. PON. 
I don't have an answer to your question though. I have seen it happen. I usually assume it was someone "window shopping" that probably shouldn't be, whether because they aren't single or aren't ready. They got cold feet, or came to their senses or fear being discovered and so they disappear. But that is my theory only.
PON... 
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XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
nutmegkitty (original poster member #33882) posted at 1:23 AM on Friday, July 12th, 2013
I think your theory is probably bang on. His username kinda sorta indicated he was recently jilted. At least in hindsight it does.
Me - happy!
2 DDs
Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 1:24 AM on Friday, July 12th, 2013
Actually, that's one of the tactics used by Match to entice people to sign up and/or remain on the site. I believe they were accused of fraud because of it and even had a lawsuit or two against them for it.
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 2:19 AM on Friday, July 12th, 2013
It happens to me a lot. 
I'm assuming it is guys getting their jollies, probably married or attached. One of the reasons I do not have a "clear" photo of myself on Match.
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
OnceInALifetime ( member #26023) posted at 3:56 AM on Friday, July 12th, 2013
It's awesome over here on PON, nutmeg! Come join the masses
There was weird crap on match for me as well, though of a different sort. I'd get all these messages from 29 year old girls (always 29, for some reason). They all looked like glamour shots from some fashion magazine.
I figured it was a scam to somehow rid me of my money, you know, one of those "Help, I'm stranded! Would you wire money please!" kind of things.
I never tested my theory, but I'm certain a *lot* of scammers troll around on match. Navigating that dating site is like walking through Central Park at night in the 80's.
Must Survive ( member #34533) posted at 5:56 AM on Friday, July 12th, 2013
Now you have my curiosity, what is pon?
Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorced-Let my new beginning start
They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen
cayc ( member #21964) posted at 1:26 PM on Friday, July 12th, 2013
Now you have my curiosity, what is pon?
It's OIAL's new OLD site "plenty of neurotics". It not only provides dates, but also gives you the opportunity to crowdsource analyze your dates on SI 
nutmegkitty (original poster member #33882) posted at 2:17 PM on Friday, July 12th, 2013
wow, a scam? Sheesh, that's pretty crappy. Bait and switch!
too bad, cause this guy actually had a profile that interested me.
Me - happy!
2 DDs
Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 8:16 PM on Friday, July 12th, 2013
I've noticed this too...I figure that most of those "profile no longer active" ones are scammers who got caught. If a profile looks "too good to be true" I usually wait a day or two to see if the profile is still active. If it gets deleted within a few days, it probably is a scam "artiste"! Just like the ones who say in the first email, "I'm rarely on this site, contact me at my email address". Bastards!
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
timeforchange ( member #27454) posted at 8:30 PM on Friday, July 12th, 2013
I met my SO on Match here in Germany. He told me that he had lots of messages from prostitutes clearly scouting for business!!!!
He just ignored them. I must be naive as I was really shocked that Match was being used for "professional uses"!!!!
[This message edited by timeforchange at 2:34 PM, July 12th (Friday)]
Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”
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