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nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 7:58 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2013
In the car with DD14 today, and she started "encouraging" me -
DD: Mom, you can't keep worrying about me and DS. You're always working and worrying, working and worrying. You need a life. I know you're old and stuff, but you need to get your own life.
Me: Honey - I do have a life. I hang out with my friends, go out to dinner, go to movies, and have a great time. I like my life.
DD: "I don't mean hanging out with other old women. Why aren't you dating? I don't want you to be a shriveled up boring old lady. Go have some fun already! No one will even notice the wrinkles and gray hair if you're smiling and having fun. But wear something cuter than that outfit. You look like you're going to a funeral. No offense."
Um... thanks honey? 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 8:12 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2013
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 8:29 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2013
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 8:47 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2013
It's a good thing you love her, right? 
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 8:48 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2013
My kids were playing Just Dance (whatever number) and my 8 year old son said, "Mommy...will you play with me?"
I said, "No, honey mommy has to..."
And my 10 year old dd said, "Mommy is too old."
I responded, "No, Mommy has to cook dinner!" 
I played later and whooped his little arse.
My kids want me to find a boyfriend too.
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 8:54 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2013
Nik, Your DD is a crack up. 
nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 8:59 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2013
Nik, Your DD is a crack up.
Indeed. She is also responsible for the accumulation of AT LEAST half of those wrinkles and gray hairs. Turkey. 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
foreverempty ( member #34426) posted at 9:12 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2013
That was very funny indeed
Especially liked the bit about the funeral outfit!
Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.
Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 9:22 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2013
t/j for Cmego:
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 9:23 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2013
Oh wow! What an uplifting choice of words!
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Griefstricken25 ( member #29183) posted at 10:05 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2013
I know you're old and stuff,
She's awesome.
Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 10:25 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2013
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 10:29 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2013
I think your DD is channeling my DD or mine is channeling yours. Sheesh...
I keep telling her I am NOT ready... she keeps telling me time is running out and I will never be ready.
Some days the only thing saving her is the fact that I love her.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 10:33 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2013
At least they are sometimes good for a laugh!
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 11:16 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2013
I'm pretty sure this is how she sees me...
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
foreverempty ( member #34426) posted at 11:21 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2013
LOL
We've seen the real you and know that's not the case though!
Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.
nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 11:27 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2013
Aww. Thanks, forever. 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 1:41 AM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
"I don't mean hanging out with other old women."
lmao
And now you know how she sees your friends...
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 2:32 AM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
Nothing like your kids to boost your self-esteem....lol.
Mine are 19 and 21 and I hear somewhat similar conversations at times. Though they are not really aware that I do date...lol.
Enjoy nik - you are doing great. ((Hugs)) 
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
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