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dreamlife (original poster member #8142) posted at 2:11 AM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
I"m seriously thinking of changing my name legally.
Has anyone ever done this?
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 2:15 AM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
I changed my name back to my maiden name. What are you wanting to do?
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 3:10 AM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
I found out that in Australia I am legally known as both names even whilst married.
WOOWHOO!! I reverted back to my own name at the end of last year.
I can't believe I ever changed it to his rubbish name. My name is one of the coolest names in the world.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Grace and Flowers ( member #34431) posted at 5:21 AM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
I reverted to my maiden name.
But I secretly wanted to change my ENTIRE name. For my new life. After much debate, discussion - and perhaps some alcohol - my sister and I came up with the perfect name....
Rose Sparklemagic!
Totally wish I had done that. Since that night, my sis calls me "Rosie", lol. 
Dark Inertia ( member #30727) posted at 6:04 AM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
My SO's mother changed her name to her mother's maiden name. Had I known her while going through my divorce... and knowing I could do that... that is what I would have done.
really trying ( member #5311) posted at 6:46 AM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
A client of ours changed his name, not sure why, he didn't say. I don't know if it's a better name for him. He went from a Barry to a Frederick and then added a famous last name as his middle name and then added a III to it.
Men don't have madain names to go back to.
Why dreamie, do you want to change your whole entire name?
Me: late 40's
XH: A parasite and that might be a compliment
My S-23, Our D-15
Married 5/93 D-Day: 11/18/03
Divorced 5/19/08
The future's so bright - I got to wear shades
Plant Seeds of Kindness
AussieMum ( member #36579) posted at 12:37 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
I am thinking seriously about changing my name back to my maiden name - we've been separated 6 months. I just hate writing it and hearing it, even though of course it is my children's name.
t/j (sorry) - StrongButBroken - as a fellow Aussie, can I just start using my maiden name again? No forms to fill in etc? I guess I'd have to supply some sort of proof to all the many companies etc I'd have to inform?
Me 47
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS13 & DD8)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 12:55 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
AussieMum, Nope - just show your marriage certificate. I got a whole bunch of certified copies made and emailed them out or showed up in person. All done within a few days.
It.is.awesome.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
BrokenDaisy ( member #37063) posted at 1:01 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
I've already changed back to my maiden name even though divorce isn't final. Also applied to change my son's surname to mine. Stbx had to sign for it and luckily agreed. I don't want my son to carry the legacy of stbx's surname.
It was a small but significant victory for me. Amazing for emotional growth. Can't wait to have the papers for my son.
I'll never change my name again.
Me xBW, him SA NPD WxH
1 son: sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
No longer broken
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Finally Divorced!!
ButterflyGirl ( member #38377) posted at 1:19 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
I am seriously considering moving to a whole new different last name. Having the same name as my sons is the only reason I would consider keeping his last name.. Don't really love my maiden name, so I have been seriously considering a totally new last name.. Still not sure what I will do, but just wanted to let you know you aren't the only one who has thought about doing this..
sodamnlost ( member #37190) posted at 4:54 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
I have debated this one. My maiden name - nope. Alcoholic Dad, NPD Mother, HORRIBLY abusive childhood - no thanks. This is my second M, my children have my first H's last name. Nope. No children with current H. So if I get D - I would get an entirely NEW last name. I am thinking Glitter.
Me - BS original Dday 10-2012, separated June 2014, divorce Fall 2016
Grief, loss and pain taunt her - "you will never be the same." Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she rises and spreads her new wings as she brushes off the ashes an
newnormal ( member #21925) posted at 11:54 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
Im going from a 4 letter last name to a unpronounceable 10 letter maiden name. Yup. I want my new beginning that bad. 
A guy I work with changed his last name to his stepdads. His bio dad was an abuser but his step was a real dad. So cool!
BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07
Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo
dreamlife (original poster member #8142) posted at 3:21 AM on Monday, July 15th, 2013
No, folks, I want a brand new name.
My maiden name is Irish and had enough problems in school with that. 
I want a NEW name that STBX knows nothing about because there is no telling just what mischief he might do after the D.
I don't want him messing up with my identity (theft) so I would not want him getting a chance to hack into my bank accounts, create online profiles, create small IRA's and then close them out so I'd be in trouble with the IRS...well, you get the idea.
I just want to be be like All Brand New after my D.
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 3:37 AM on Monday, July 15th, 2013
Then your new name should be Lady Liberty.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
dreamlife (original poster member #8142) posted at 3:45 AM on Monday, July 15th, 2013
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)
dreamlife (original poster member #8142) posted at 4:52 PM on Monday, July 15th, 2013
That is a cool name, NG...but I've been "testing" out the name I have decided upon in various ways...and it fits!
***Like a glove! 
Every time I use it, I feel re-born.
Maybe more people should do this.
I just worry about future travel, paperwork, etc. 
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)
jennie160 ( member #29949) posted at 5:16 PM on Monday, July 15th, 2013
I changed mine back to my maiden name after the divorce but I kind of wish I would have changed it to something else now. If I did change it to something else I would have used my maternal grandmothers maiden name, if I ever have a boy I plan to use that as his first name.
My maiden name is Irish and had enough problems in school with that.
Maybe we have the same last name. Lets just say, when I go to the store and hand my credit card to the cashier a majority of the time I see them trying to hold back a chuckle.
dreamlife (original poster member #8142) posted at 5:27 PM on Monday, July 15th, 2013
Jennie~ I'll just say this:
I hear ya, sister!
Will send you a PM later.
I need to get ready for a biopsy. 
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)
Must Survive ( member #34533) posted at 7:31 PM on Monday, July 15th, 2013
I am known in my business by my married name and I thought I would keep it. But after some smart person on SI pointed out that she did not want her X's last name on her tombstone for all eternity did I realize I HAD TO CHANGE MY LAST NAME.
I would rather take the business hit than the emotional hit.
Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorced-Let my new beginning start
They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen
tabitha95 ( member #22033) posted at 7:35 PM on Monday, July 15th, 2013
My maiden name is so incredibly bad that I really don't want it again (it's majorly joke-worth and includes a body part). I also don't want EX's name either...especially with his parents being such jerks to me, I don't want anything to do with them.
Maybe a brand new name is in order. Maybe I'll change my first name to Tabitha too.
BW (me) - 45
DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).
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