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KeepCalm_CarryOn ( member #33374) posted at 7:04 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
Add me to the round of yeses. It definitly did not invite the OW/BH into our lives, in fact it shed light on a few remaining issues and we haven't heard from them since.
Somethings to consider- doesn't the girlfriend have a right to make an informed decision in her relationship? If this OM is cheating with your WGF, who's to say she's the only one exposing the girlfriend to STDs, shouldn't she get checked? And many many many of us had that "off" feeling in our relationships, by shedding light on the A you may be relieving someone of those nagging feelings.
Please do it.
You are not dealing with rational people or situations. Normal thought processes won't work...story of my life.
Me- BW, 30
Him- fWh, 36
Mostly R'd, minus a few scars...bought a house and got a puppy...And baby makes 3! She arrived August 2013
Runninggirl ( member #9973) posted at 9:03 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
Wish there was a LIKE button. Lots good things were written. Thank you for posting this topic.
I really appreciate hearing from the men on here. It helps to know what the BH feels where initially contacting them is concerned.
As of 10/30/16 I'm in WTF mode.
Ten+ years out. Stunned.
After several years of solid R, (F)MOW
CHECKS IN in to say Hi~ H CHECKS OUT briefly and "forgets to tell me" because IT HADN'T gotten
physical this time. 4 months out agai
1Faith ( member #38975) posted at 11:10 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
My vote is yes.
Wouldn't you want to know if she knew and you didn't?
I struggled with this for the longest time but truly believe that the OM deserved to know.
You can inform without being mean or vicious ( you are both injured parties ) but I would want to know.
Do the right thing for the right reasons.
Good luck
Sometimes my life feels like a test I didn't study for
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