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ProbableIceCream (original poster member #37468) posted at 3:55 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
The divorce is final. No spousal support. I waived about $80 a month in child support because at the moment it would be a hardship (this can change later). XWW was extremely cooperative.. give her some points for that. She accepted everything I suggested (that I considered fair). Only asked me to change one small thing while we were talking about it.
I have ~79% custody and final say in legal decisions according to our current parenting plan (but we're required to discuss major decisions). The plan will be renegotiated in 6 months.
No spousal support. We keep whatever property we have in our separate accounts and in our physical possession. We are responsible for our own student loans.
lostmommy ( member #33440) posted at 4:11 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
Me (BS): 32, Mommy to J: 2 1/2 Divorced: 4/10/13
Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 4:45 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 5:50 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
Congrats!!
Who would have been paying spousal and child support to whom?
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 6:01 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
Sounds like how things fell out for me too.
So how are you feeling?
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
Ann124 ( member #29289) posted at 7:28 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
Glad to hear that everything went as well as they could!
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 7:57 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
Sounds like things went as well as one could expect. How are you doing?
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
devistatedmom ( member #24961) posted at 9:44 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
Congrats on having that done PIC. Hope you are doing ok today.
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 9:46 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
Congrats!
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ProbableIceCream (original poster member #37468) posted at 10:07 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
I would potentially have had to pay spousal support to her, since I make several times as much as she does. Calculated child support was her paying me $80 a month but I requested that it be reduced to $0 for the time being since she makes almost no money.
I'm doing OK I guess. I feel a little shocked. Maybe like things are more open now, I'm more independent. A little sad maybe. Mostly I just have a sense of lots of things changing, which can be a little bewildering.
Including the car thing. Researching a good used car for around $6k takes a lot of work.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 10:09 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 10:12 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
Congrats. Do something nice for yourself-- you don't need to "celebrate," but you are starting a NB. I hope you can mark it by doing something more fun than used car research. 
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 10:26 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
BREATHE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's such a relief after the shit storm of D/S. 
Now it will be time to make short and long term goals for your future.
Congrats and welcome to your NB.
Gma
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BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
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