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rn_6609 (original poster new member #32838) posted at 1:29 AM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
My son got married this weekend. There was a lot of anxiety over me seeing my XH with OW. She didn't come. She said she would be uncomfortable....hahaha...duh!
My dil and I are coming off the elevator...there is a man standing to get on. He said "hi"...we said "hi' and walked on. When we got to the parking lot my dil asked if I felt awkward...I said why?? She said that was XH...holy crap I didn't even recognize him!!! All gray and old looking :)
Next we go to pictures...I sought out ex and told him I didn't recognize him or I would have visited...we made comfortable small talk about the kids and grand daughter.
At the wedding...XH sat by himself...I sat with my SO. At the reception...XH stood in the back...Me, SO, family and friends have a great time dancing and playing around.
Next day I get an email from XH...says he had a "WOW" moment...said I have never, ever looked happier and he just knows he has never made me that happy. He was glad to see me.
That my friends is VINDICATION....yes I looked happy...yes I had on a smoking hot black dress...yes I am fun. Sad moment for him.
I almost feel sorry...I had my wow moment over 5 years ago when I caught him with her. Sucks to be him right now!
"If we knew each others secrets, what comforts we should find." John Churton Collins
Me: BS
Him: MLC to the extreme (howorker)
M 25 years high school sweets
2sons 25 and 27, one grand daughter.
Dday-Oct 2007
D 4/2009
newnormal ( member #21925) posted at 1:45 AM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
I didn't even recognize him!!! All gray and old looking :)
Smoking black dress
You go girlfriend! 
BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07
Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo
traicionada ( member #10310) posted at 1:59 AM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
That's the best revenge of all: happiness. Nothing drives people crazier than seeing someone have a good life
Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...
hurtbs ( member #10866) posted at 2:01 AM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
Awesome! I love reading posts like this!!
Me - 40 something. WXH DDay 2006, Divorced 2012
WBF DDay #1 9/2022 #2 11/2022
Single
Housefulloflove ( member #38458) posted at 2:06 AM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
Dang! That is a heck of a downhill slide if he is unrecognizable just 5 years later!
Yay on having your moment! How much better off he would have been if he wasn't such a sad POS who ruined all of his blessings!
Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013
hurtinky ( member #26152) posted at 2:15 AM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
Sucks to be him!!
Me --> BS
D-Day 10-1988
D-Day 9-12-2005
S 9-13-2005
D 3-6-12
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 2:18 AM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
Love it, Hot Mama!!! 
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 2:18 AM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
That rocks, rn! Love it.
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She11ybeanz ( member #27457) posted at 3:10 AM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
That's freakin awesome! You go girl!!! I hope I have a moment like this one day!!!
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
phmh ( member #34146) posted at 3:29 AM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
Great post -- and congrats to your son!
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
inhishands55 ( member #9454) posted at 5:37 AM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
WoW glad you had that moment...I had mine several months back when I had to deliver a message to the ex...He looked so bad and could hardly stand up straight...
I thought if he lives to see his next birthday that would surprise me...Well, he had his birthday on the 4th and I think he is still around..
Congrats on your moment and too new Beginnings.....
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 6:31 AM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
Bazingah!
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 11:32 AM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
Congratulations on your son's wedding and your moment!! It's such a good feeling
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
Confused1829 ( member #32729) posted at 2:08 PM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
This is the best thing I have read all day!
He was unrecognizable after just 5 years? hahaha.
It is amazing. The opposite of love is indifference - you are totally there and loving YOUR life completely!
Awesome, I'm glad you had a great time and you had a moment! Keep living it girl
Me: fBW 31
DDays: May 31 2011 & Aug 6 2011. Divorced November 14, 2011 (No Kids)
luvbug0915 ( member #22934) posted at 4:14 PM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
Oh your story gives me such hope!
This is EXACTLY what I'm wishing for when I run into my XH and OW in October when I attend my step son's wedding with my SO.
"I haven't stopped looking for the good in people. I've just accepted the fact that I'm not always going to find it."-Patti LaBelle
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