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Now I see I have gotten into a dark spot again.....where are those dang twinkies?!?!?!

Ice cream sandwiches are my "go to" so you can mix it up a little!

oh yeah.

lost 40lbs quick on the I-diet. then slowwwwwly over 7 years gained it all back and then some.

there were a couple of years inbetween that I looked pretty damned good though .

I might be the exception here. I gained about 7 or 8 pounds in the first couple of months after D day.

However in the 7 months before D day I started running and lost 22 pounds. After D day while I was sick to my stomach often I also stopped working out - lost the desire.

I am happy to say once I stopped worrying about us and focused on me, I was able to start working out again and have lost the weight gain plus a pound or two. More than the weight is my health. Started swimming and really feel fit. Actually starting to get a little bit of a swagger/self confidence. But I live in Socal where everyone is supper fit!

I was already losing, but in 3 months I lost over 30lbs. Just could not eat.

I am at the same weight I was when I was 16 and it's a "healthy" weight for me although it wasn't lost in a healthy way.

My appetite is returning and my body is craving junky carbs. I know I have to watch what I put in my mouth, but right now I am still eating way less calories than I need to so I eat whatever sounds good.

That will need to change very soon.

None of the work clothes I wore in May fit me anymore. I have dropped 3 sizes. I go back to work next week for the fall so I guess a new wardrobe is in order?

Thanks, honey! /sarcasm

I think I gained almost 20 lbs during the A and the aftermath, and I started out way overweight. I'm starting to take it off now.

W lost weight during her A. I wish it had been because of guilt, but it wasn't. She was afraid ow would out her, so she couldn't sleep or eat. She was below 92 lbs on a 5'2" or 5'3" frame.

One of her requirements for R was to reach and maintain a healthy weight, which she has done.

Well in the first 2 months lost about 20 lbs but since I have gained about 70lbs.

My guy is a huge fitness person gym, hockey, rollerblading etc.. After much IC and contemplation therapist & I have figured out my best way to punish & test him was to be what he didn't want & dare him to stay.

Now we are on a good path & he is so supportive of my journey to lose this weight in my way. He knows not to push just support.

I am hopeful I can get back to my fighting weight

Sorry, I've lost weight, but not in a good way. I had built up a fair amount of bulk, but now my muscles are all gone because I'm not eating enough.

Well, maybe not "all gone." But diminished. I was working out hard to get into a kendo class this fall.

I have lost about 15 lbs and H has lost about 25 lbs since the A. We dont plan on gaining back any weight, instead we have tried to make healthier decisions and get into shape. We both love our weight loss, kept it off and love how we feel now. We plan on joining a gym together and are being more active, especially when it comes to our kids. I dont think size is important, its about how you feel and your health. Good luck

Initially lost...then gained...then lost....now I've sustained an injury that doesn't let me move and I'm terrified of gaining!! I'm,really hard on myself about weight, and I need tone nice to me right now. R is really flipping hard!!!

I lost 35 on the infidelity diet.

I gained 48 with the HB baby pregnancy.

Still trying to lose the last 20 of that.

And HB baby is now 40 pounds (5 1/2 years later )

I'm only just under 7 weeks post d-day and am down 15 pounds.

Loving your sense of humor on this post and others JanaGreen! I still love to laugh!!!

HeartInADustpan...thanks for the suggestion....I DO love ice cream sandwiches. (glad I didn't sell my fat jeans!)

[This message edited by blakesteele at 8:27 PM, July 25th (Thursday)]

I've gained 13 lbs since last year. My body does it as soon as the major stress wanes but I'm still in unhappy limbo so it says 'let's pack on a few pounds cuz THAT will make you feel SUPER SEXY while you are struggling with self esteem issues.

It's frustrating because I eat an extremely rigid diet where even my occasional cheats are super clean. Pisses me off but whatever. I need to get my bountiful butt back to the gym but sadly, this gym (which I love) is closely associated in terms of triggers with OW even though they were happy to verify for me that she was no longer going there.

Pre 'enlightened' I weighed 123- 126 lbs which was good.

Post DDay I fell to 112 at my worst (I am 170 cms tall) and fought to get up to 118 which I kinda loved. My antiD's meant I threw up most days for over 12 months!!

Now? Contentment and being woo'd and enjoying my food without the worry of barfing has seen me rise up to 144 lbs at my worst. I was never that heavy before apart from when I was pregnant!

I am now trying to lose this and am at 135lbs and aiming to lose about a stone.

Why? Because I was most in control of things when I was 118lb and felt SEXY even when FWH was with ow and my life was a mess.

I know that sounds a bit anorexic in thinking but it was true. I could throw anything on and look fab and that, coupled with the fact the exercise I did to ease my stress gave me a Jennifer Nicole lee body silhouette, helped me get through one of the worst, most traumatic episodes I had ever encountered!!

For me? Thin yet muscular and happy is my ideal. I hate the way I currently look!

ETA. I also think there's a subconscious part of me that wanted to get bigger to see if he'd still want me. Messed up or what?

[This message edited by MrsDoubtfire at 4:59 AM, July 26th (Friday)]

I was in the process of losing weight prior to D=day, was down about 30 lbs. After D-day, the weight loss stopped. I kept up with the plan that took the 30 off for two more months, but no loss. I then went back to "normal" eating, no gain, no loss.

over the last 5 years I have lost about 20 more due to upping exercise, but that is it.

I can not eat for a few days, and I do not lose, I can eat whatever I want and not gain.

I am in a serious holding pattern, and still need to lose about 50 lbs.

I believe I gained weight due to stress during the M (that gut feeling I could never prove which caused deep inner turmoil), and the damage caused by 2 decades of non stop stress has not stopped IMO, thankfully I have not gained, but whatever my body needs to lose weight it has not found yet.

Grace

I was already working out with a trainer when we separated last year. I lost 30 lbs between working out and the infidelity diet. He says he lost about 10lbs.

THEN, we started dating again. That meant food. "Come to the house and I'll cook dinner." "Let's go out for dinner tonight."

We continued the kids' visitation schedule for the first 2 months of dating. I would get depressed on his overnights. He would spend the day with me and then the 3 of them would leave me to go to his apartment. Ben and Jerry became my best friends!

Once he came home, it got worse. Now, instead of getting up at 5am to work out, all I want to do is lay in the bed in his arms for as long as I can! No more soup/sandwiches/cereal for dinner. Now, it's full blown meals plus desserts! I've gained back the 30 lbs plus 5 more!

I just call it my "so glad to be happy again" weight!

Oh, and Ben and Jerry are his best friends now too! He's gained back about 20 lbs!

I lost 35 and have gained all that back plus 10. I am not happy about this. I loved my thinner self!

Waving hand.....On the I diet I lost about 20 pounds...I probably needed to lose 5. Since I'm a shorty (5'4"), the last 15 turned me into a skeletor, which was not a good thing.

In the last 18 months, I gained back 15 and look normal now...fit and healthy....

Two places I'd never like to visit again...the infidelity diet and the death of a parent diet!

Yes, I went from 98lbs to 108! :) Hubby gained a few pounds, too. We basically gained from HB what we lost during infidelity diet.

Oh, and I'll take some cheez-its for my midnight snack. And, then get up again, to get seconds. lol.

[This message edited by libertyrocks at 12:38 PM, July 29th (Monday)]

I dropped 9 lbs within a month of DDay #1.

Today, I'm 20 lbs heavier than that way-too-low-point...

Before the A, my weight was locked in for like 10 years.