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BS here...no stop sign.

Thank you for posting this topic...it is something I still wonder about. I have seen my wifes AP around town in a situation that looked highly inappropriate with a woman NOT his wife...and this happened since he ended his affair with my wife...sounds as if he and his wife have had long standing issues. I suspect my wife was not his first fling and by the looks of things will not be his last.

And yet...my wife had a very a passionate affair with him. Has told me she has felt things with him that she never has with anyone else. Took him at his word that he was fixed so no protection was used...no discussion at all about STDs either.

Hard for me to get my mind around this...how a relationship built on lies could be so very strong, so very addicting, words spoken to each other accepted with such absolute trust. I also wonder how a WS can distance themselves from that strong feeling they felt while with their AP enough so as not to make comparisons between that fantasy world and the real word that is their marriage and family. Sometime in the future don't WS have to reconcile this somehow to get to a passionate relationship within a REAL context?

I enjoy reading in the WS for this reason..to get some insight into their journey. I would like more insight from my wifes journey but we are not to that point yet.

Thanks again for posing this question...very informative.

God be with us all.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 8:11 AM, August 2nd (Friday)]

No, I don't remember thinking the OPs were "faithful". Didn't care if they were hooking up with other people. Just remember hoping and trying to determine they were single because I didn't want to hurt some other girl. Stupid. Glad I had my priorities straight; shouldn't have been cheating to begin with, then all of that would have been moot.

As for H, no idea. Since he won't even refer to what he did as cheating, doubt he'd ever tell me if he expected "fidelity" from them. He had seriously protective feelings around one girl in particular (one of the ones who didn't reciprocate) and refused to discuss her with me... I'm guessing he would have been jealous if she were interested in other guys. As it were, she was interested in girls and found me attractive. He said he got together with me to attempt to make her jealous. Fun.