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womaninflux (original poster member #39667) posted at 12:02 AM on Friday, August 2nd, 2013
SAWH and I are now separated in house. I should have done this when I found out about the A. Probably would have prevented some Jerry Springer moments and him having to see my neediness.
This is helping me figure out what I need in order to move forward. Do I want to stay in the marriage? What do I need in order to stay in the marriage?
I need perspective, clarity, etc. I need to not wonder when he is coming to bed, what he is thinking, what I am thinking, 24x7. For awhile, I just need to BE.
It's been 4 nights and it's been pretty good. I told him I will no longer pretend we are a married couple. If he is going to treat me like a roommate, then that is what we will be until we decide what the next step is.
BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 12:54 AM on Friday, August 2nd, 2013
I have no experience with this and I don't imagine it is very helpful for me to project how difficult it must be! 
I wanted to let you know you have been heard and that I think you sound very strong and capable! I wish you the best of luck navigating this stage. I hope you get the clarity you need.
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 8:39 PM on Friday, August 2nd, 2013
In House separation can become very tough when there appears to be no recourse on R. As you figure out what you need to go forward and if it is a D, then prepare to act in some way to be physically separated. I did 2 months of in house separation after filing for a D and it was awful. I hope things are still going well and that you are working on what your next step will be.
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