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fraeuken (original poster member #30742) posted at 2:56 AM on Friday, August 2nd, 2013
It was DDs 16th birthday today and I was devastated to not be with her. This is the first time I am not with my child in all these years. No special dinner today, no decorated birthday table, no nice cake, no togetherness.
Last night SO stayed at my place. And at some point in the evening I just lost it thinking about DD16 and all the loss we have experienced. I excused myself and went to the bedroom and just sat on the floor and sobbed.
He eventually knocked on the door and asked if he could come in. I told him yes. He sat on the floor next to me and hugged me. I just started to sob more. He just sat there and held me tight. I cried myself to sleep. At some point I felt that he lifted me on the bed and covered me. I heard him leave and then he came back with a warm washcloths, washed my face, kissed me and went to sleep on the couch.
I am love with this man. With all the misery, I felt safe and loved like I never felt in my marriage.
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 3:13 AM on Friday, August 2nd, 2013
Oh my goodness. I am so sorry for your pain, but blown away by his response.
I am so happy you found such a wonderful man.
[This message edited by Chrysalis123 at 9:14 PM, August 1st (Thursday)]
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 3:55 AM on Friday, August 2nd, 2013
That is touching in so many ways.
(((hugs)))
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
Griefstricken25 ( member #29183) posted at 4:06 AM on Friday, August 2nd, 2013
Wow. What a beautiful picture of what a man should be.
(((fraeuken)))
Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 4:37 AM on Friday, August 2nd, 2013
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
fraeuken (original poster member #30742) posted at 6:16 AM on Friday, August 2nd, 2013
Talked to my girl today and feeling much better.
It was the gesture of washing my face which certainly was not a pretty sight that really made me stop and think. No man has ever done that for me. It was such a simple gesture but it was so very powerful to me.
Tonight we met up at church for a brief prayer meeting and be offered up a very eloquent, heart felt prayer which I know was partially directed at me. After he took me out to dinner and we just talked about our day and books and movies.
I have always given more than I received in my relationships. It is very difficult for me to accept his kindness at times. I feel like I got tenfold back what I lost with the end of my marriage.
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
Bebba1171 ( member #33857) posted at 6:30 AM on Friday, August 2nd, 2013
wow - what an impressive man. Feel pretty inadequate compared to him!
Happy for you Frau.
Currently in San Diego with my son visiting my little sister and playing a lot of golf.
Head back to the sticks of Kentucky tomorrow.
You live in an awesome state!
Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 54Me) / XWW 52
Two great kids that don't deserve this!
Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 8:30 AM on Friday, August 2nd, 2013
Wow that is so nice. 
Hope you are feeling better today.
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
Sissi12 ( new member #37163) posted at 8:36 AM on Friday, August 2nd, 2013
So nice- you deserve it. Never stop believing.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 2:31 PM on Friday, August 2nd, 2013
(((Fraeuken)))
He sounds like a wonderful person.
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