From Abbondad's thread, by FaithFool:
AD, at this point in the game, the roller coaster ride is more like bumper cars....
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You'll figure it out eventually, but your neck will hurt a little.
Yeah, my neck hurts. I don't know why I needed another ***BAM***, but I'm gonna remember this..
Thanks for all the support. Been really needing it today. I work from home, and I'm supposed to be typing right now, but I've been getting up and using my sons' punching bag and cleaning up some stuff. You're right SBB, I just need to funnel this rage into something else..
And yes, Gonna, as always you made me smile and gave me great advice. Yes, I'm feeling powerless again, and that's probably why it's all resurfacing. But yeah, I'm an adult now, and I'm not gonna keep it a secret and hide and be scared. I just gotta get up and keep on keepin' on..
That is truly awesome BeyondBreaking, and just what I need to do. She wants to play ball? Okay. I'm gonna play. By, uhhh, taking my ball and going home and not playing with her.. I've already got a great text messaging program that saves all my texts in Excel, so I will be saving all these, though I do come off pretty bitchy.. In reality world, she's fucking with my kids, and mama bear's claws wanna come out. But I'll hurt her more if I can just shut my damn mouth and let her hang herself..
HFOL, thanks for the support. I really do feel like I'm the only one with the kids best interest in mind. I try to step back and make sure it's not just me being bitter or vengeful, like I'm sure it seems to them when I want the kids to know the truth. Parents are supposed to set an example for their kids, and they are the exact opposite of that.. And I'm never gonna lie to my kids. And yeah, I think they are trying to prolong their fantasy land as much as possible.. I did say to her, "Well since you want to co-parent with me so much, let me know how the kids react when you tell them you've been lying to them all this time." I'm sure they don't want to face that. Unicorn fart land is just too much fun I guess..
Please get you children in Counseling.
All 3 of us have been going since the early part of this year. They enjoy it.. POS has said a few times that I'm hurting them by taking them, but he hasn't officially told me I can't.. I should be asking him for the co-pays, but I'm not for fear of him telling me I can't take them..
BTW<<, is she married to someone else? do they know what is going on?
Honestly, I really don't know. I know the BH is not the father of the kid she has.. I don't think the kid's father is in the picture.. I know POS initially told me they were only together a few months, then longer, then during a TT session about 3 weeks in, he admitted that it was over a year and a half, but that I better not ever say anything because the BH was abusive and shouldn't know that she had actually cheated on him..
In know in January 2011 (which I remember since I posted it on Facebook cause I was scared) that a guy came to the door just before midnight knocking and staring through the window-like pane on the front door. I was on the couch in the living room, and I knew he could see me, but I froze until he finally stopped knocking and went away. I thought it was very weird at the time, and now I'm pretty sure it was him, and God do I wish I had went up to the door..
In November 2011, both of our cars were totaled by someone pouring a sugar-like substance in our gas tanks. Had no idea who it could be at the time, but of course now I think it was the BH..
Through seeing old text messages, MOW would complain that someone was cutting her brake lines and messing with her car.. She's bad news I tell you..
He went back and forth after D-day on what their status was, they were together, they were separated, they are divorcing, now they are divorced, yada, yada. I really don't know and have never been able to find him or talk to him, though I'm pretty sure he is out of the picture now.. I don't know if he would talk to me given I think he totaled our cars, and I'm sure he wouldn't want to admit to that..
I'm 100% positive she was married during the affair, so I just call her MOW.. Perhaps she should be fMOW? I don't know, but I don't think there's a BH to really talk to..