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completeshock (original poster member #19334) posted at 4:48 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2013
I spilled my feelings to someone I thought felt the same way. Turns out he didn't. I feel so stupid now. Stuff like this makes me feel like a teenager all over again - and not in a good way! LOL. Does this "feelings" stuff ever get any easier???
Sometimes you have to forget what you want and remember what you deserve.
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 6:06 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2013
((((((Completeshock))))))
I don't know if it ever gets easy. I think you are incredibly brave to be able to put them out there.
Hugs,
K
[This message edited by Kajem at 12:08 PM, August 10th (Saturday)]
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
wonderingbull ( member #14833) posted at 6:33 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2013
CS... Calm down and relax... Putting yourself out there is always difficult... When it isn't reciprocated.... well.... That's just the way it is... Chin up, eyes forward girl...
Live in fame, die in flame...
WB
The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...
James Taylor
completeshock (original poster member #19334) posted at 6:53 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2013
If there is one good thing to come out of it, it's the fact that despite feeling stupid and sad, I'm also pretty damn proud of myself. I'm not one to ever talk about feelings and it usually comes back to bite me in the butt. At least I have no "what ifs?" right? That part is a little empowering.
Sometimes you have to forget what you want and remember what you deserve.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 6:55 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2013
(((complete)))
I'm sorry. It takes a lot strength to take a chance by sharing your feelings. I hope you meet someone wonderful that appreciates how terrific you are and makes you laugh.
9.10.11 ( member #36336) posted at 7:59 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2013
No it doesn't, CShock. It sucks being on both sides.
It all needs said, from both sides. Then you move on. Keep your head up and know that there will be someone out there who feels the same, then you know ya got what and who ya want. You'll both be happy.
Hang in there!
sadsmile ( member #16658) posted at 3:03 AM on Sunday, August 11th, 2013
I get where you're coming from. It takes guts to put yourself out there. I'm a very confident person in most aspects of my life but shy in this way. Unfortunately this wasn't the guy but kudos to you for being brave enough to put it out there anyways and although you may be bummed temporarily at least you don't have to look back and wonder what if. There's a lot of value in that! 
thyme2go ( member #12908) posted at 4:36 AM on Sunday, August 11th, 2013
Speaking from experience, one of the worst feelings there is. Especially when you are certain they feel the same way...
-t2g
BH - no longer 50
3 DD's - (32, 28 and 21)
Divorced on 8/6/09
click4it ( member #209) posted at 5:33 AM on Sunday, August 11th, 2013
sorry you feel stupid, but I don't think you are stupid at all. (((hugs)))
Me: 45
Two boys: 20 and 17
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01
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persevere ( member #31468) posted at 7:41 AM on Sunday, August 11th, 2013
Being open and honest is a victory within itself. As you said - no what ifs. Even when you don't hear the answer you want to hear at least you have the answer.
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 1:42 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
Being open and honest is a victory within itself
Ditto. Don't ever feel stupid about sharing your feelings, and sharing your feelings shouldn't be dependent on what the other person feels or how they respond.
Sharing your feelings is being true to yourself. It is always nice to hear the other person has the same feelings back, but if they don't, it is still okay that you have your own feelings.
I am at the point in my life that I feel the freedom to share my feelings with others and not worry about how they feel about it. It is empowering and freeing to get to that point....but there is really no reason to feel stupid about sharing how you feel. Congratulations for being strong enough to share your feelings and not know how the other person was going to react! I'm sorry they didn't react the way you were hoping, but it is still an awesome thing for you to be able to do!
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 6:02 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
(((((CS)))))
Ouch! This really hurts. But I'm glad you're proud of yourself for reaching out and saying your piece.
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
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