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She left the next day. Moved in with him. She had met him a week and a half earlier.

We're divorced. She has made a few pitiful efforts to be friends. I'd rather make out with a septic tank.

DD OWUglyIndian lives in London. She dumped him after a few weeks.

Then I was stupid enough to go into False R.

That lasted 3m then 20 weeks after S this 40 y/o loser told me he was ready to introduce 24 year old office gopher/prior OW (I had no idea, I trusted her taste more than I trusted his fidelity) to my then 2 and almost 5 year olds as his GF.

AFAIK they are still together. I give it 2-5 years as that is his usual MO.

Immediately. Poopsmear never came home after dday. He and twatsmudge married immediately after the divorce. They're still together 8+ years later though it is rocky. They're both so dysfunctional I suspect they'll carry on this way for many more years.

He left the day after d-day. He would have left the day of, but I made him stay and he slept on the couch. I don't know what made me think I had ANY control at that point.

That was over 4 years ago and they are still together and, from all accounts, living happily ever after.

[This message edited by Griefstricken25 at 12:45 AM, August 11th (Sunday)]

EXWH left in Oct 2011 to move to a friends place that they were not using. (After we had just spent a week vacation with my family - he was on his phone a lot, I thought for work - little did I know!) This was because we were "having problems" and he told me it would only be for a few weeks at most. (My DD was not even a year old at this time and I was a stay at home mom).

I became increasingly suspicious by December. (Though we went to marriage counseling a few times he was not sure if he wanted to work on the marriage or not - was increasingly angry with me and picking fights etc)

He moved home in January bc the lease was up on the apt and the friend was not renewing - he considered leasing it himself month to month but in the end came home.

Literally the next morning I found the receipts where he was taking OW out for dates.

Within 2 hours I packed mine and DD's stuff up and left to be with family.

He moved in with her at her condo in March and they just bought a sfh together in June.

[This message edited by Fooled Me Twice at 6:43 AM, August 11th (Sunday)]

After almost 18 months of trying to reconcile (yeah, I know, wtf was I thinking??). I told him I was done. He moved out shortly thereafter (a week or so?). He's currently introducing the first AP I knew about as his "new girlfriend", and as she informed me via text, they ARE going to be together and they ARE going to be happy, I just need to learn to be mature about it.

I don't think he maintained contact with her after I confronted him in either 2004 or 2005. But he knew she was easy and he could get his wick dipped, so why not her. She's as good a hole as any, right??

So, I don't know that he technically left for her. Hell, he didn't technically leave, I kicked him out !

My WW called divorce, then the next day told me about an affair (found out later about another). 6 weeks later, a man was hanging out with WW and my kids. I think he was around before the break up, but...hell, who knows, and honestly, who cares.

Anyway, they started living together on the weekends I had the kids, then got pregnant, then it turned full time.

Still trying to get paperwork, but still married. Going for a lawyer next. Need money now. Man, this pisses me off.

Sorry about the tangent.

You're an interesting species, an interesting mix. You're capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you're not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we've found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other. - Contact

9 months... some of which was hellish false R pretence... since then, three months of hell, then I decided to make a fresh start. Yesterday was our 28th wedding anniversary and we spent it together with our son. I don't love him any more but I have great affection for him. He IS with OW, who I really believe, in spite of all our years together, is his soul-mate. And I have found mine.

I suspect what you were hoping to hear here was that affairs always end in breakups... but they don't. It would be much easier for my grownup kids if WH would split with OW (who they knew, and will have nothing to do with)... but it's not going to happen, I think.

Sometimes them leaving is the best thing because it FORCES you to turn your heart away from them...

There's a future out there, there really is.

He left on Dday.

They lasted 3 weeks.

She then dumped him when he hesitated and considered R. She was sleeping with another guy within 2 weeks. He was devastated, poor thing.

We separated a few weeks after DDay and false R. I have no idea whether the A is still going on or not. Ex says it isn't but I understandably don't believe anything he says.

Me: BS 35

Him: WS 35

DS 3.5

DD 16 months

DDay 27/01/2013

False R 04/02/2013

S 20/02/2013

EA turned PA sometime before Feb 2012

Dday was the date he moved in with OW. They have been together now for over 7 years. They married about 18 months after our divorce.

He moved out one night blaming me (I was clueless about A at this time). I grew suspicious but couldn't figure out the "who". Was finally told it was my FRIEND by someone who saw them together!

I immed offered him 24 hours to come clean, get counseling, etc. He gaslighted, I filed and it shocked the HELL out of him when he was served!!!! still laugh about it!

They are together now - 18 months after d day,, but my source tells me that they have heard she is miserable, thinks my XWH is an idiot (I agree with her), and she never stopped sleeping with another married man that she's been with since April of 2010!!!

We attempted to reconcile for about 2 months after dday when I found out about continued contact with OW. I filed for divorce and he continued to go back and forth between my house and hers. He would live at my house during the week and go and spend weekends with her. After the divorce was final, he moved in with her.

They were together for 4 years, but not happy years, because, of course, she was bat shit crazy and kept him on a very short leash.

He left 3 weeks after I found out about #4 but we were not trying to R during that time. He wanted to stay until school was out in June. I couldn't stand it that long so he left.

That was April 29th. They continued their long-distance thing until September. They only physically saw each other for one business week in July. He told me that the break-up was mutual. She started the conversation and he finished it. He had realized that it was all fantasy bullshit.

We started dating again in November but I wasn't told about the break-up timeline/details until December. He moved home in February after a 10 month separation. We are solidly in R.

He left 10 days after Dday. I thought it was temporary, but he never came back. Left all his stuff here and ran away like a coward. Turns out OW was pregnant and he wanted to be with her.

He moved in with her. They lasted until right after the baby's first birthday. She kicked him out. That was almost 2 years ago.

Nearly Exh was already living with AP prior to Dday.

He abandoned us before we knew about Floozy and tried to hide her and make it about the marriage, how awful I was, instead of the cheating. He rewrites the events and things in his mind, but many people find strong disagreement with his views and even there are pictures showing him differently than his descriptions. Coping mechanism?

He also worked hard to not get caught, but it was Floozy herself who outed him. It was a little weird because he kept his life with her secret but didn't return home, prolonging the agony until outside sources (relatives) changed the course of what was to be.

Kicked him out on dday 2.5 years ago and he never looked back. They both made off like they just started dating AFTER they were separated from their spouses, but uhhhhhh - so not true. They were having a co-worker EA for years, maybe even PA. They just bought a house together as joint tenants, not married though.

Ex tried to stay with me and wanted me to be OK with the AP being in his life.

At the beginning, he said she was just a friend and he wanted to keep the status quo - a stable family at home and a whore on sexchat call with dinner and movies on Friday nights.

It took 13 months after I confronted stbx fucker before he moved out. We signed the separation agreement in June which he had backdated to March. Whore is due in early 2014.

I moved to my Dads house to give her 'space to think' two days after D day. 5 weeks later I realised I was being played and moved back in. She moved in with him and took my kids one week later. She now won't even talk to me.

well, DD was march 2009. we (or more precisely I) tried to reconcile for year and a half.

i kicked him out (as clearly he was not reconciling, i was still terrible and he was missing her and once in a while they were in contact) in jan 2011.

they are fully together since then and are happy (accoording to him).

he was hiding the fact they were together for a long time, but not anymore.

so, yes they sometimes do stay together and sometimes are happy.