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karmahappens (original poster member #35846) posted at 12:30 AM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
I only found SI about a year and a half ago. I was almost 4.5 years past dday.
As much as my H and I had R'd I still struggled with my feelings for the OW and my rage/hate for the friend I thought I knew.
Because of the collective wisdom here I was able to put her behind me and walk away from the negative energy I let control my life, for that, I will be forever grateful.
I think it is time for me to go, and close this chapter of my life. The A isn't in my life on a daily basis anymore and I think I should move on and begin to focus my energy in another direction. It's hard to let go of something that has brought such enormous comfort.
I can't even begin to name the people that have helped me over the last 18 months. The stories and help everyone offers, not just A related but life and BTDT kind of insight. I don't think I will ever find a spot so safe IRL.
Thanks to the many hands that run and keep this site safe for everyone.
It's a long road, one I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. I pray everyone finds their own way out to a happier, healthier place.
Be good to you, and Thank you.
A special thanks to AN, for your wisdom and support in the oddly parallel lives we seem to lead. (((hugs)))
Dee
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
stronger08 ( member #16953) posted at 12:42 AM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Best of luck Dee. Check in from time to time and let us know how you are doing.
You cant eat soup with chopsticks.
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 12:59 AM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Good luck to you. I've learned much from you.
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 1:59 AM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
I'll miss you here and the wonderful support you give to others.
But, I do understand, and I'm glad you are at a place of peace.
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
meplusfour ( member #38958) posted at 2:35 AM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Best to you Dee. Your quote at the bottom of your signature resonates with me. I remember reading it in the early days following my D-Day after your posts and being thankful that I had found this site with so many wise people who were willing to help. Thank you.
BW (me)42
WH 44
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
In R
"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be."
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 3:01 AM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
.. 
karmahappens!!??
hey,... hockey season isn't that far off!!!
..maybe you can drop by for a comment or two!! 
GO Leafs GO... 
..ps. ...glad to hear you are in a good place.. 
smy
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:09 AM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Neat. Best wishes for the future.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
karmahappens (original poster member #35846) posted at 3:13 AM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Thanks guys :)
And SMY...I am in a good place A wise, but have some things I need to deal with that are just life related, so I need to take care of things.
But don't worry, as soon as the Bruins kick the Leaf's asses...I will be here to taunt you.
Take care 
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 3:35 AM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Thank you so much for all of your inspiring wisdom. Your words and your hope helped me through some of my darkest times. I will always be grateful.
All the best to you on your journey.
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
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