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TattoodChinaDoll (original poster member #34602) posted at 2:56 PM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Oh great members of SI...how I need your mojo for this evening. WH and I are meeting a financial planner to figure out what the best course of action is to pay of debts, save, etc. so he can get out of his mother trucking job and away from the whore. I have a feeling (or should I say I'm realistic about the fact) that we are going to have a timeline of years before it is safe for him to give up his job financially. I know healing takes years...I've always been prepared for that. I've never been prepared to have OW in my life that long. She has already been in my life too long as it is. I'm scared....very very scared of what more I need to shoulder to make this marriage work. I'm afraid that I have to give up my safety for years to come and fear every day that he leaves for work. That's the horrible part about A's with coworkers. He leaves every morning to something real...something that really happened...to a person he has history with. If you have any extra prayers or mojo, I'd be greatful.
Me: 35
WH: 37 TimeToManUp
Married: 14 years, together 19 years
3 daughters: 12, 8, 6, and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011
This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 2:59 PM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Tons of mojo and positive vibes headed your way! 
cancuncrushed ( member #28156) posted at 2:59 PM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
You have my prayers. The OW was coworker. I know your pain. Ground hogs day movie comes to my mind alot. Good Luck. Ow is gone for us. It was a big breath of relief.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 3:00 PM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
TCD - Whatever the answers are, they will give you two power. Working toward this goal together gives you two power.
Keep that in mind. Kudos on taking this step!
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 3:18 PM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Done!
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 8:02 PM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Count me in. Congrats on taking this step for yourself and for your M.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 8:10 PM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Sending mojo and good thoughts.
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 8:12 PM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Sending mojo. I think that once you have a plan it will be a relief. Good luck!
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
TattoodChinaDoll (original poster member #34602) posted at 9:19 PM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Thanks everyone! One more hour until the appointment. So scared. I think I need to get some Depends!
Me: 35
WH: 37 TimeToManUp
Married: 14 years, together 19 years
3 daughters: 12, 8, 6, and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011
This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
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