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The small list

Her beautiful strawberry blond hair

Her Smell

Her touch

Her love for helping others

Her ability to keep a house full of little girls happy

Her undying love for me (which I do not deserve)

Her chicken broccoli casserole

Her Amazing Body

Her Amazing rear-end

Her Amazing Breasts

Most of all, The smile and hug I receive when I walk through the door at the end of my work day.

I love his eyes

I love his touch

I love his strength

I love his drive to succeed

I love his intelligence

I love his sense of humor

I love when he holds me

I love cuddling up to him at night

I love making love to him

I love his cooking

I love watching him dance

I love holding hands with him

I love kissing him

I love his home fried potatoes

I love playing golf with him

I love that he puts our family first

I love making plans with him

I love that he believes in us

The effort she's making to understand and forgive me

Her smile (on the rare occasions when I see it genuinely come out now)

Her touch

Her referring to me as "Her Steve" even though its been extremely hat on her some days

The way she talks with her hands

The way she feels when I hold her in bed at night

The way I feel when I wake up in the morning next to her and just look at her

The curves of her body (especially the booty)

Her long shapely legs

The scar on her stomach (from a previous surgery)

The feel of her hand when we hold hands

Taking showers together

The sound of her voice (when she's really happy...this is something I miss a lot now and understandably so)

The excitement she gets sometimes just looking at me

The way she likes to spout random science facts

The fact that we could be perfectly content lying in bed and watching Netflix

Her sense of humor and the ways we can make each other laugh.

The way her hair curls on humid days

The list goes on and on. But these are the first things that come to mind. I have learned to appreciate these more and more every day because at any day, she can take them away by asking me to leave. I am so lucky that she gives me one more day. I try to focus on these now when we go through a trigger. We haven't reconciled, but I will keep working towards it for all the reasons above and more!

Here are a few reasons I love my BH, in no particular order:

I love that he is not giving up on me and working so hard with me in therapy.

I love his smile.

I love the lines by his eyes (his krinkles).

I love his laugh - it's infectious.

I love his ability to debate a topic with insight and ease.

I love the way he makes our house and yard so beautiful.

I love the nicknames he calls me and our silly little language.

I love the way he protects me and makes me feel safe.

I love way he comforts me when I've had emotional breakdowns.

I love his goofiness.

I love our adventures together.

I love riding bikes with him.

I love laying in bed with him watching our favorite shows together.

I love our Twilight Zone marathons.

I love that he thinks I'm beautiful and tells me all the time, even when I don't think it.

I love that even though he likes pickles, he ALWAYS gives me his.

I love how it feels when he holds me.

I love that he's making future plans for us.

I love how he's an amazing cat daddy! (Meow)

I love the tiny kisses he gives me on my face.

I love his intelligence.

I love that he loves me, even though I feel like I don't deserve it.

I love how much he loves his family.

I love running my fingers through the hairs on his chest while I'm resting my head on his shoulder.

I love how he'll drive when I'm afraid to - long trips, snow, etc.

I love that he cares about me.

I love drinking new beers with him. (We're going to start brewing together)

I love going out to eat with him.

I love when we reminisce about all of our adventures and happy moments.

I love how he smells.

I love when he does little things for me, like filling my water bottle so I don't have it get out of bed to do it.

I love camping with him.

And I agree with 1DumbHusband on the following (substituting the shes for hes):

The list goes on and on. But these are the first things that come to mind. I have learned to appreciate these more and more every day because at any day, she can take them away by asking me to leave. I am so lucky that she gives me one more day. I try to focus on these now when we go through a trigger. We haven't reconciled, but I will keep working towards it for all the reasons above and more!

[This message edited by pizzalover at 9:32 PM, August 16th (Friday)]

There are many many things I love about my husband and I only wish that I realized what I had before I did this. But nonetheless, these are just a few things I love about my husband.

I love the way he looks at me

I love his smell

I love his body

I love how feeling his touch makes me feel safe

I love his determination

I love the cuddling we do

I love how we can still hold each other like when we first started dating

I love how playful he still is

I love being able to talk to him about anything and he always knows what to say to help me

I love how he can always make me smile even on days that I don't want to

I love his sense of humour

I love how he will sit and listen to me talk for hours and not get bored

I love how he is still interested in me

I love how his laugh just lightens up a room

I love how fantastic he is with our kids

I love his ability to instant calm down our son with the sound of his voice

I love the way he looks into my eyes with such passion when we are making love

I love how he can make a conversation out of anything

I love how patient he is with me

I love his tolerance for me

I love how when his nose is itchy, he scrunches it because he doesn't like touching his nose. It is absolutely adorable

I love the connection we have together

I love how his body feels against mine

I love his loyalty and honesty

I love how I married my best friend

I could go on and on but I don't want you guys to get bored. So this is just to name a few...

There is so much I love about my husband and I am glad that I get to spend the rest of my life with him.

[This message edited by FR2012 at 7:06 AM, September 10th (Tuesday)]

His Smile.

For all of you hard working WS's I want to let you know of a very new section of cards at Hallmark stores. They are in a section called "Between you and I". They are incredibly well written and I can assure each of you that you would find an appropriate one to give your BS.

I wanted to share this because I had a surprisingly hard time picking out the anniversary card I gave to my RS for our 25th anniversary today. I didn't like any of the fluffy "Lovie" ones they seemed surprisingly inappropriate to me. I don't want to make him feel I under appreciate all the hard work he has put in to get to where we are today. I also thought they made light of our specific struggles through this,something I will never do again.

Last night, before bed, I gave him one of these new cards....basically thanking him and validating how important all of his work has been in this hard process. Even he asked where I got the card....he loved every word in it and felt how appropriate they were.

I love when you guys do this thread.....makes me know we are all healing, BS's and WS's alike.

T