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There are plenty of faithful men...we have many, many BH's here on SI who have never cheated..

@LostinBlueSeas...how is he proving he is being faithful if he is still traveling so much? I would tell him he needs to find another job..he has proven he can't be trusted.

Im sorry..but you need to be tested for STD's....right away...him too. He is lying if he says he never met up with any of these women. I think you know that. You want to trust him because he is your husband...but you caught him..you know he is lying.

Tell him you want him to take a polygraph...you deserve the truth..and he is not giving it to you.

You can give him attention 24/7..it won't matter..because his cheating has nothing to do with you. It isn't because you are lacking..HE is.

Also...please stop placing ads on CL. Please. I understand why you're doing it..but as you said..most of the replies you're getting are from married men. At one time, that might have been my husband. And, I can promise you, it wouldn't have made any difference to *me* if you were "just" posting to see if your husband replied...because *my* husband replied..you know what I mean? And, while I absolutely believe you, and I do understand why you're doing it...if you are contacted by a wife whose husband responded to your ad..and you told her what you were up to...she will think you're full of shit..because she is looking at a list of other numbers her husband has contacted on CL, other ads he has responded too..hookers..other women looking for NSA..and she will have already been told "this is innocent, I was just looking for someone to talk to"..etc...from the other women she has contacted.

Don't be that woman. You are better than that. Don't let his shitty choices cause you to do something beneath you.

That you are placing these ads..tells me your WH sin't doing nearly what he should be doing to make you feel safe.

Has he given you full transparency? Do you have full access to everything...the email account he was using to place and answer these ads..as well as others? Facebook? Cell? Computer?

Welcome to SI...((((LostInTheBlue Seas))))

[This message edited by confused615 at 10:42 AM, September 30th (Tuesday)]

Hey, I just found out about this page and Im so glad that I can come on here and talk about it and have you all understand how im feeling. :( last year I had the weird feeling that my husband was up to something btw we have been married for 9 years already I called my sister and told her that something wasnt right and she told me to check our verizon bill and txt messages so I went on and notice that he was talking to this 21 year old for 2 1/2 months! they met up once and made out, but didnt have sex because she chickened out. My husband lies a lot and every time I would ask him something he wouldn't tell me the truth so I txt and called the girl. Thats where I found out that they met on Craigslist personal ads and then both agreed to meet up to have sex because she wanted to get back at her husband for him doing that to her on Craigslist. They ended up the relationship because she ended up getting pregnant by her husband and wanted to work things out with him. and I was 8 months pregnant while this was all happening. I also called more phone numbers to woman that he called but they couldn't give me information on him. He swear to me that he will never do it again started to go to counseling and was doing good up in till a few weeks ago I looked at his phone history and he went back on Craigslist encounters ads and went onto this 27 year old page and she was wanting to share and hear married mens cheating stories. I woke his ass up and asked him what he was doing again and of course he lied about it again and then said it was a mistake. I honestly think it's over between us I can't live my life looking through his phone and wondering what females he's talking to. Im tired of his lies and treating him like a kid. I just don't have time to deal with that I have 3kids that I need to worry about. Thank you so much for your time and again im sorry for all of you that are going trough it

I am curious how everything turned out for everyone?

I just found out I have been in a similar situation for a very long time. I knew about some things but had no idea how far out of hand he had gotten. This makes me sick to my stomach, thinking about how gullible I have been.... My H started his online activities not too long after he moved in with me (11 years ago). I found one email once and didn't think about it again. After I had my first child, 5 years into the relationship, I had more time at home and discovered his internet history. There may have been more in between but I didn't notice. I learned he has been online way too much and chatting as well. After that we had different struggles through out the years. Drugs, drinking, always something.

I just found out last week he has been posting persona ads and belongs to dating web sites. He has been doing this for the last 1.5 years that I know of. Like others he swears he has never done anything offline. Even after catching him and saying he would stop he started posting and replying to ads right away again.

I have asked him to leave, I consider what he is doing cheating. He is supposed to be out in the next two weeks, wish it was sooner.

He says he is going to get help and hopes we can reconcile in the next few months. I have very little hope or desire to have a relationship with him. The only reason it has lasted this long is because we have two small children and I have been a stay at home mom and then started working from home.

Have any of you successfully repaired your relationships? I am not sure why I am asking, except that I feel a huge amount of guilt for this happening to my children.

Thanks!