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Dadtryingtocope (original poster member #36726) posted at 12:35 AM on Sunday, August 18th, 2013
So it's my one year Dday anniversary and somewhat to my surprise I am all good. I barely thought about it. While I can recall all of the events and the unbelievable shock I was handed that night, I'm not really feeling bad about it. I guess it's just my past now and not a huge need to look back at is. Lessons learned, move on.
BH me 47
WW her 39
DDay 8-17-12
2 kids (13, 10)
Filed for D 9/14/12
Divorced 4/17/13
She - engaged 5/13 married 9/13
gardenparty ( member #12050) posted at 1:19 AM on Sunday, August 18th, 2013
Time really is a great healer. So glad that you got through this day alright. I am seven years out now and although I would be lying if I said I never trigger about dates and things like that, they do not happen that often.
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 1:22 AM on Sunday, August 18th, 2013
so glad you barely thought about it. Cheers to moving on! (cue sound effect of the clinking of glasses)
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 6:30 AM on Sunday, August 18th, 2013
It takes time but it does get better! 
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 7:16 AM on Sunday, August 18th, 2013
You are through all the firsts now - I found the antiversary of the day we got together which happened a few months before the DD antiversary was the hardest for me. By the time the DD antiversary came around I was in celebration mode.
I celebrated how different my life is now. How much more I'm getting out of every single moment of my life. What a better mother I am.
I savour all of it and I am celebrating all of it.
My triggers are different now - I trigger about things that I'm mad at myself about. I trigger about all the time I wasted being miserable. Far better than the yearning kind of triggers I was getting in that first year.
Welcome to the other side of Annus Horribilis, brother - with all of that awful stuff behind us. It is a glorious place to be!
[This message edited by StrongButBroken at 6:59 AM, August 18th (Sunday)]
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 12:51 AM on Monday, August 19th, 2013
You're doing so well for only one year later !
I was still in the deep pit at a year out. 
Next year will be even better.
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
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