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EtTuBrute ( new member #39792) posted at 5:47 AM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
If there are kids and joint custody and the OP becomes the new spouse of the WS, then the OP becomes a stepparent of your kids.
BW 41 WH 47 LTA/LD: EA 9 yrs / PA 14 days; 4 Kids: 7,5,2,2 OW: XGF 45 DDAY: 10-8-12 Broke NC 4 times, no known OW response.Began R 7/19/13
If you can't spot the sucker in the first half hour at the table, then you ARE the sucker. - Rounders
ImNellNow ( member #28753) posted at 4:28 PM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
If there are kids... then the OP becomes a stepparent of your kids.
That was my driving force behind trying actual R for over a year after the end of false R. The COW didn't think a thing of putting her biological kid in harm's way to satisfy her urges; I was sure as hell not going to allow her access to my babies so she could mess them up, too! It worked... she has never been in the same zip code as my children, as far as I know.
BS & D
Drinking wine and thinking bliss is on the other side of this.
90Worthless90 ( new member #39855) posted at 1:39 AM on Thursday, August 22nd, 2013
This slightly reminds me of that beyonce song "ring the alarm"http://youtu.be/eY_mrU8MPfI
Me: 23
Him: 29
Together 6 years.
DS: 2yrs
Ow: 18 at the time. Our son's "God sister"
Doomsday: November 2nd 2012. A couple of days before our sons birthday
OldCow18 ( member #39670) posted at 2:53 AM on Thursday, August 22nd, 2013
I feel the opposite. I feel they both "won" because no one lost anything, she stayed married to her BH, he stayed married to me, they keep their jobs. I'm the only loser in R. I often dream of divorce just to show them the true damage caused. She knows my children, knew what a great family we were, I know her well enough to know that she would feel like complete crap if their A broke up our marraige/family. They were the "it won't hurt anyone if they don't know" types...no emotions in their A, just lust. Her life has gone on just fine and dandy, no big deal, if we were to D it would be a dose of reality which she sorely needs.
But I will not let her dictate my R or D. It's simply not about her (as much as I obsess from time to time, ha).
Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (49) 11 years, together 16
D-Day 6.8.13
strongerdaybyday (original poster member #40264) posted at 7:56 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2013
It's simply not about her (as much as I obsess from time to time, ha).
You and me both!
Me-BW Him - WH
Married 6 years, together 15 years
3 awesome and beautiful children
OC discovered on Dday - born in 2005
D-Day Summer 2013
working towards D...I can't pretend anymore
**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**
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