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StrongerOne (original poster member #36915) posted at 2:21 AM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
I was looking for the MCOW online...she's just within the last couple of months been reestablishing herself online. Found new work Facebook account for her...with new town! Looked it up -- new address out near her current job, her BH listed at same address.
She's really and truly GONE. She's no longer working two hours away from her house out here -- she lives two hours away. She's not likely to want to come back to work here anymore. I won't have to worry about seeing her as I drive my DS around to his sports teams.
She's GONE.
It feels...strange. It's like, now I can finally believe that my H is over her. I knew that rationally, but now I *feel* it. And kind of like, I have to let go of her, let her out of my head.
I've felt we've been in R, but maybe I've been hanging on to the A? Afraid to really be truly R?
Just...a strange feeling.
ETA: I feel like I can stop cyberstalking her 
[This message edited by StrongerOne at 8:30 PM, August 19th (Monday)]
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 4:53 AM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
That must feel like such a relief. Now you can try to not let her occupy your head space. I bet you will feel even better if you stop stalking. 
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
RidingHealingRd ( member #33867) posted at 7:31 AM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
I would wish this for every BS.
It is such a "freeing" feeling. AP no longer exists in your world.
The best day, post Dday, for me was the day my vehicle rolled out of the State where POS MOW was living and headed to our new home...1600 miles away!
Enjoy your life with her out of it.
ME: 60 BS
HIM: 67 WH
Married: 35 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 10 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.
The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.
StrongerOne (original poster member #36915) posted at 3:13 PM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
Yes, you are right. No more cyber stalking. She doesn't deserve to live in my mental neighborhood anymore. 
Ellephantastic ( member #39833) posted at 4:49 PM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
OW has also moved away, back home to Norway! Because she dropped out of university (the university I go too) and because Scotland is too expensive for her!!! YAY!
I agree, it is a strange but good feeling. Its like we have 'won' in a way, we have held onto our men/women and our 'territory'. At least that's how it feels to me 
BS(me)
WBF = PA
Ow = 19(at the time)
WBF A = 08/10/2012-17/10/2012
D-Day = 24/01/2013
"It was easier for him to hurt me than it was for him to turn her down"
Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 7:04 PM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
OMG so envious (xOW lives 10 minutes from us in the next town)...but SO SO happy for you! I can feel your joy in your post!!
Big hugs...
2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 11:46 PM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
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