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LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 7:44 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2013
Thank YOU thundersdad. And what an awesome quote to leave for us.
Your story will surely give inspiration to many!
Regards,
LA
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
fourever ( member #30631) posted at 7:46 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2013
Thank you Thundersdad78. 
We are having a similar experience, three years, one month after DD.
His was a 4 yr A w/ MOW.
You can recover, but it's a long difficult road. There is light! Remember that on the darkest of days.
Many here will help along the way. Thanks to all of you too!
In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.
Always, tell the other BS! Always!
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!
Sal1995 ( member #39099) posted at 7:59 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2013
Thanks thundersdad, I really needed to read your post today. I also have a remorseful WW who went NC and has mostly done everything right except for some TT at 3 months, so your story fills me with hope.
I hope you check in frequently, we could use some of your wisdom and encouragement on the BM thread.
Twentyplus ( member #39593) posted at 12:13 AM on Saturday, August 24th, 2013
Thank you for your inspiration. Thank you for the Frankel quote too.
We face a long road. FWH just beginning IC w/ CSAT. I face continuing PTSD. I have hope that we can both recover. Somehow. Someday.
"But we must supply our own light." - Stanley Kubrick
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 12:40 AM on Saturday, August 24th, 2013
Thunder,
I'm doing quite well. In general our R is going well. We have normal issues not Affair issues now. I'm glad we made it through different individuals, different courses but we endured the tough times with great advice and work. It's true, you can survive. We miss you around here, stop bye every once in a while. So glad your well.
BS- Me (45)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R.Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
SoAngryAndHurt ( member #40150) posted at 1:01 AM on Saturday, August 24th, 2013
Thank you thundersdad. Thanks for sharing. It helps so much....
Me BW
Him WH
2 kids elementary school age
Married 12 years
05/20/13 I confront and TT begins
07/01/13 The whole truth. Admits to EA/PA
lucy17 ( member #40187) posted at 3:48 AM on Saturday, August 24th, 2013
So glad you posted. This site has been wonderful (in its own terrible way) because of people like you who have made it through and because of the people I feel like we are slogging through together.
Thank you for posting!
“The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places." Hemingway
Me- BS 38
Him- WS 44
1 child- 13 years old
together 21 years, legally married 17
Dday1- 7/7/13
Dday2- 8/12/13
The rollercoaster of R
isadora ( member #29130) posted at 11:21 AM on Saturday, August 24th, 2013
Good post. It's great to hear. Thanks for posting.
Me: BW Him: who cares
Divorced: 4/2015
2 DDs and 2DSs
Who knows how many affairs at this point
Multiple D-Days
I can only control myself, no one else. I do not have that kind of power.
Laura28 ( member #28997) posted at 12:14 PM on Saturday, August 24th, 2013
Hi Thunder
Great to hear from you. So happy all is going so well.
HUGS
Laura
Married 42yrs Me BW 68Yrs Him F?WH 70yrs OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted. Dday May 28 2010. OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years). OW2 2002(8yrs PA). OW3 2009(1Yr PA). Others?? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck 'em"
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 4:01 PM on Saturday, August 24th, 2013
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
happyman64 ( member #33212) posted at 2:43 PM on Monday, August 26th, 2013
ThundersDad
Good to hear from you.
Glad you both made it through the fire.
You are reborn!
Nice to know your wife finally grew up.
Keep on living life to the fullest.
Thanks for the update.
HM64
Sal1995 ( member #39099) posted at 5:01 PM on Monday, December 30th, 2013
Just want to bump a great post that is full of encouragement and hope. It seems appropriate as we head into a new year. Thanks, thundersdad.
HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 5:27 PM on Monday, December 30th, 2013
Me: BH, Her: WW, Married 40 years, Reconciled
PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 5:34 PM on Monday, December 30th, 2013
What a beautiful chapter in your "life story" to read of the reconciliation! Congratulations on working so,hard and coming through to the other side. 
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
*****************************
Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
painfulpast ( member #41038) posted at 6:57 PM on Monday, December 30th, 2013
Fantastic story!! So glad he shared.
If you ever read this, Thundersdad, bravo!!
DDay - 12/2010
Fully R'd - I love my husband
greengiant ( member #41196) posted at 7:21 PM on Monday, December 30th, 2013
Thank you ThundersDad for sharing!
And thank you Sal1995 for bumping that thread.
My WW is also showing remorse and doing lots of things to change, and yesterday we had a 1 hour long talk having a real discussion. Her words are hard to hear, but she is opening and changing.
ThundersDad, your story is giving me hope, and I if you haven't done it yet I think you should post it in the Positive Reconciliation story.
So again thank you!
ME - BS - 35 (33 on dDay)
fWW - 35 (33 on dDay)
Married 10 years, together 17
3 kids: 8, 6 and 4
D-Day: September 30th, 2013
She had a 6 weeks A with a COW
LetMeRollIt ( member #41189) posted at 1:06 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013
D day- June 30, 2013
Me - BS
Married 15 years
5 year old child
Attempting R as of Oct. 1 2013
"Cry, and let your soul be cleansed of a love that turned to carnage." - Christy Brown
bufffalo ( member #21854) posted at 1:27 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013
Thunderdad...
Thanks for the update...its nice to know there are others out that that have gone on to a successful R....and my FWW and I did.
Take care.....I do remember when you "joined us" and the struggles you endured....
Thanks, Bro....for sharing...
Bufffalo
StillStanding1 ( member #40144) posted at 2:34 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013
Thanks and congratulations. We all need some inspiration!!! Thanks for keeping hope alive!
Me: BS50s Him: WH50s
M 25 years - DD DS DS
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday - 2/13, S for 1 year, now R
iwillNOT ( member #40605) posted at 5:12 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013
Thank you for this positive post, I really needed it today.
Me: BS, 46
Him: WH, 47
Together 24 years
4 amazing kids
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Choosing myself daily and R almost every
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