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NeverAgain2013 ( member #38121) posted at 2:31 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2013
Your decision to be done with him is a wise one. You deserve better than him and his deception. You deserve an honest, open, loyal, loving partner and relationship.
I completely agree with Fireflies - your decision to get away from this man is sound.
He honestly sounds like a psychopath or a sociopath. He just has zero empathy, zero compassion, and zero remorse for anything he's done or anyone he's hurt. It's actually frightening.
Don't go down that black hole with him. Stay on your course to be done with him, that's your healthiest option.
I'm awfully sorry this has happened to you.
Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.
HurtButHopeful? ( member #25144) posted at 5:38 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2013
StartingOver,
Oh honey, your engagement didn't fail, your fiance was deceptive. Had he been honest and told you about all the skeletons in his closet, you may or may not have become engaged to him. It would have been your choice. By keeping it a secret, he took away your power to choose. In a sense, he entrapped you.
This is indicative of his character, and unless he has some serious IC to deal with the reasons he lies in order to keep people around, you will have to live with lies all your M.
One would think that a relationship would start based on truth. When the children come, and the business sets in, there is enough stress, but to have to deal with a liar on top of it...oy veh.
Take care of yourself. I can guess that those who were invited to the wedding would rather not participate in something that is going to end up in a D someday anyway...their being able to going to a party is not more important than your LIFE.
(((((StartingOver)))))
Resources for R:
His Needs Her Needs, by Dr. Willard Harley
Love Busters, by Dr. Willard Harley
(for husbands) Becoming the Ultimate Husband, by Reb Bradley
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 11:54 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2013
With one week to go to the wedding that I was invited to, I received an email from the bride's MOH that the wedding was cancelled and expressing apologies for the means of communication as well as the shortness of notice. It was stated that the cancellation was due to a misrepresentation of the groom to the bride. The misrepresentation was his baby momma showing up at the brides house with proof that the groom was still screwing her.
Every invited person that I knew, while feeling horrible for the bride, was thankful that she found out about this before, not after, she was married. We all had her back. And we all have yours. (((hugs)))
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
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