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I have had a very busy/stressful week with school starting...bubbling up latent guilt feelings about being a working mom...blah, blah, blah. Whatever, I was handling it. Felt like I had a good balance with everything...

Found out a long time family friend passed away, so am planning on taking Teslet for an overnight this weekend so we can make the funeral. I text ex-shat that his son will be out of state overnight and our hotel information. (It's my weekend with Teslet.) He texts back, "Does he have to go, I had a fishing trip planned for this weekend." I tell him that it is my weekend. He texts back that he thought the calendar said that he had Teslet for three weekends and then said, "I see it's been changed, tho..."

I simply responded "The calendar has not been changed."

Fuck That Guy. I guess shit isn't going his way like he thought with the tax return...so now he's going to try to start something?

I'm upset. And tired. And now I'm paranoid.

Fucking great.

And how in fucking hell does he have time to go fishing (He' never fished in his life) when he's getting evicted/trying to close on a house/in debt up to his eyeballs.

Fucking douche and his douchebag piece of shit lying ways. If he was going fishing he would have told Teslet all about it and I would have been hearing all about it all week...becuase I heard about the Disneyworld trip back in...oh...feb. Also knew he was looking at houses some time ago as well because Teslet mentioned it.

I hate that fucker right now.

Did he know you were going to a funeral? He probably thinks its a "fun" trip and is trying to compete.

I'm sorry he's such a complete ass.

So sorry you have to deal with an ass on top of everything else

((((Tesla))))

FUCKING ASSHOLE!!!!!!

Please stop listening to all the BULL coming out of his mouth!

((((tesla & teslet))))

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Unbelievable. That is so fucking underhanded.

I was able to muster a little empathy for the sad clown when his BFFs mum passed away. Not too much - just enough to not make date swaps painful.

I cannot believe he is yanking your chain right now. I mean, I'm not surprised but I'm still shocked, IYKWIM?

WTF is it with these lost weekends?? You would think fucking up once would have him double/triple checking so he doesn't let telset down again.

Fuck.That.Guy. He is soulless and an imbecile.

WTF is wrong with his ability to use a Google calendar???? He is THAT incompetent??

I would only add to your title, "STUPID Fucking Asshole."

Sparkles- I informed him that we would be attending a funeral...because, you know, maybe he was interested that his son would be learning about death this weekend.

Silly me.

((((((((Tesla))))))))

((((((((Teslet))))))))

I am sorry for the loss of your friend.

Don't open any emails from him till AFTER you return. One of my kids friends had a grandparent pass away. The kids spent time learning and playing card games with this person. I would have taken them, XH refused to allow them to attend.

It sucked on a lot of levels for my kids, the friend did not have her BFFs attending her grandfathers funeral to support her.

If I had to do it over again, I would inform then step away from the email account.

Hugs,

((((tesla))))

I tell him that it is my weekend. He texts back that he thought the calendar said that he had Teslet for three weekends and then said, "I see it's been changed, tho..."

I simply responded "The calendar has not been changed."

It's gonna sound like a lot of extra work, and it is, but I suggest emailing a copy to him. So that you have a time stamped email, with attachment, showing a copy as of such-and-such date.

Keep it in Google calendar, but just email a copy, say every 3 months or so, for the coming 3 months.

It's what I do, and trust me, there is great pleasure if forwarding an old email to him with a "no, see, right here it shows you are a BLAZING DUMBASS"

(((Tesla))))

I'm so sorry for your loss.

He's lucky that you even use the calendar....that he doesn't even use anyway. You are a better person than me.

tesla, my wish for you is that you find a way to not let his constant screw ups take you down so low.

Seriously, none of this is shocking. He's developed a pattern to show you who he is. It's obvious he can't manage his way out of a closet.

I would have ended it with "It's my weekend. My information to you was mere courtesy" and let it go at that.

Dayem, he rents a lot of space in your head.

AJ's MOM

I'm so sorry for your loss. I agree with the poster above who said step away from the email until you return.

You did what you are required; told him you'd be leaving with your son.

He tries to pull a fishing trip? Fuck him. You're not alone in the calender reading disabled ex. I can even send it 10 times by email and he still has no idea when his weekend time is or even what weeknight after its been Tuesday night for years. Really idiots? I'm not sure how they get dressed in the morning to tell you the truth.

Ignore and take care of yourself and try to relax some; even though I know it's hard/impossible w school; kids; jobs; life; ex douchebags; etc. etc....

Sorry for your loss:(

Thanks all.

I come here to get him out of my head. IRL I would not come off as an obsessive spaz like I do here when I post about him. It's a cathartic release and usually I can jet go on with my day. Example: didn't think about him once today (well, until I got on SI) and honestly most days are like that.

Good place to vent.

He is an ass, and he's pissed that you are capable of making a hotel reservation on your own -and going without him. Think spoiled 13 year old. That's their maturity level.

He is a royal douche

He really sounds like he's on drugs. WTH? Weekend fishing trip when he doesn't fish on your weekend? He sounds completely and totally off his nut.

(((tesla)))

(((Tesla)))

You just keep doing what you've been doing. You are one of my SI Heros. I wish I had 1/100th of your class, strength and resolve.

You got this.