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Do you ever think about just being alone because it's easier?

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ExposedNiblet ( member #30803) posted at 1:53 AM on Monday, August 26th, 2013

***The following is an answer from someone who is not dating, and likely won't ever be. It's only an opinion, and should be treated as such. Thank you. ***

Yes. Absolutely I do, but not because it's easier, but because it's the only thing I know.

My painful truth: I have never been one of those girls who had men knocking down their doors. I didn't go on my first date until I was 17 and only had a couple of boyfriends until I met XH at 19. Now, as I inch closer and closer to 50, I see my prospects as even slimmer than they were in my prime. The difference is that now, I honestly don't care.

Orson Wells once said "We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for a moment that we're not alone" and that really stuck with me over the years.

I have, for the most part, been alone for much longer than I wasn't. Even in my marriage, XH worked out of province at least half the time; I raised our boys pretty much alone. Most of the friends that I made over the years have drifted away, leaving me alone.

I've read countless stories here on SI about people missing being part of a couple, and I feel like such an outsider because I DON'T miss it. I don't believe I ever really had it to begin with. Sure, back in the day when XH and I were happy, I was part of a couple, but somehow, even then I knew it was temporary because he'd be leaving to go back to work.

I prefer being alone, Eranda. At least it's familiar. I'm not vulnerable to someone else's poor judgement or bad choices.

I don't really know what I'm trying to say here. I just wanted to get that out.

Thank you.

Divorced and happy.

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