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Divorce/Separation :
This is what divorce looks like douchbag

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 newlysingle (original poster member #38735) posted at 8:42 AM on Sunday, August 25th, 2013

So the Gnat showed up today to pick up the kids for their first overnight with him and Hello Kitty (now that they have a pool fence in place). Both of the kids' birthdays are coming up in the next month and a half. Here was our conversation.

Gnat - we need to talk about what we're going to do for their birthdays.

Me - Well, I will be hosting parties for both kids with my friends and their children. You and Hello Kitty can celebrate their birthdays with them during your scheduled parenting time.

Gnat - Well, I just figured that we would have a party for each of them with all of us.

NO, ASSHAT! This is what divorce looks like. When you walk out on your family for some dumb whore, you don't get to partake in family activities any longer. My friends don't like you and don't want to see you or your whore.

He just doesn't get it! It infuriates me that he still thinks he did nothing wrong and that I just need to "get over it". I should just accept Hello Kitty because she's wonderful and really cares about our kids.

BW - Me (40)
XWH -The Gnat
"Engaged" to OW, but the wedding appears to be indefinitely postponed.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (8), 1 DS (3)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 8:57 AM on Sunday, August 25th, 2013

Entitled much, Mr. Gnat?

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 9:56 AM on Sunday, August 25th, 2013

There is no "we" in divorce, fuckturd. But there is one C in there and its you.

Sheesh. DD in March and he has already moved OW in for the insta-family AND he expects there to be an "all of us"?

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 10:16 AM on Sunday, August 25th, 2013

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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Linus1968 ( member #31243) posted at 12:33 PM on Sunday, August 25th, 2013

There must be a bowling league somewhere and WSs talk about this stuff. Or a manual where all the WSs read from. To pretend everything is normal, all is well. My WW left in May, moved in with OM, got pregnant by Nov, and she text me (by that time, no communication except texting) we should go Christmas shopping with the kids so we can show them we can be civil. My brain literally short circuited. I dropped my phone in my lap, stared at the wall, and my eye began to twitch. I don't get it. Part of me wishes I had that mentality so there would not be so much pain.

Newly, I totally agree. They just don't get it. Our Xs share the same middle name: Imadoofus. I believe someday, it will hit them how stupid they are. Whether they stop being an idiot for the kidsis what is in question. But, by then, it won't matter.

I know your kid's party will be the coolest amongst their friends.

You're an interesting species, an interesting mix. You're capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you're not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we've found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other. - Contact

Me: Me
Her: Multiple men, multiple times, OC with the latest one
S: 17, D:15
May 27, 2014 DIVORCED!!!
In the words of Dory "Whew, I'm glad I got that off my chest."

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movingforward13 ( member #38405) posted at 3:05 PM on Sunday, August 25th, 2013

My STBXH said the same thing as our son's third birthday is in three weeks. I told him that I was going to throw a party at school and he can take our son that evening and do his own thing and keep him over night.

Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

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