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Hurtandb3tray3d (original poster new member #40418) posted at 2:33 PM on Sunday, August 25th, 2013
Last night I caught my Fianc'e coming out the house with a girl. I was suppose to be at home in bed but something said get up. As I was coming down the block a girl was coming out of the house. and they were getting into the car. so I called him he answered and said he was coming from playing cards. I don't know what to do please give me some advice.
unfound ( member #12802) posted at 3:24 PM on Sunday, August 25th, 2013
I'd be in stealth investigative mode pronto. Phones, computer, whereabouts etc...
Did you let him know you saw him leaving the house with this girl and getting in the car?
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Hurtandb3tray3d (original poster new member #40418) posted at 4:46 PM on Sunday, August 25th, 2013
No I didn't im still acting as if I don't know. what should I do.
Compartmented ( member #29410) posted at 7:18 PM on Sunday, August 25th, 2013
Read here as much as you can. Post enough posts so that you can access the forum called "investigative tips" (look in the yellow box in the upper left). I think it is 50 posts, and then that forum will be available to you.
Read posts; read in the healing library.
Don't confront, don't confront, don't confront. If you want to know what is truly going on, don't let on you know. You will be able to learn so much more if you can let him think that you don't know.
This is hard to do, and I personally confronted many, many times because I just couldn't stop! But where I was able to keep my mouth shut, I was able to continue to learn what was truly going on. He sure as hell wasn't telling me diddly.
{{{ hugs }}} It hurts, but please know that it will get better. You've found a great site with wonderful people to help you through this.
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