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Tripletrouble (original poster member #39169) posted at 9:21 PM on Saturday, August 31st, 2013
As we all know the infidelity is perpetually on the mind of the betrayed (at least for some amount of time, for me I'm 4+ months out). Sometimes I feel myself start to tune it out. It must be a survival thing. I become so exhausted by it that I find myself almost pretending it didn't happen, just to get a break from the constant hurt and anger. Maybe this is tied to the roller coaster, and the ups happen when we can tune it out briefly. I am desperate to feel normal and so so ready for the plain of lethal flatness to hit.
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
wheelsup ( member #34809) posted at 10:09 PM on Saturday, August 31st, 2013
(((((hugs))))))
I just wanted you to know that you've been heard.
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 10:39 PM on Saturday, August 31st, 2013
It's definitely okay to take mental breaks whenever you can. That's one of the reasons I suggest physical activity so often. Not only does it release toxins from your body, but it also distracts your mind temporarily.
This roller coaster is a long ride, but the hills and valleys tend to spread out and get less drastic with time. I'm almost three years out and still think about the A very frequently, but it doesn't hurt nearly as much these days.
This stuff does get easier to handle with time. Hang in there.
TrulySad ( member #39652) posted at 10:53 PM on Saturday, August 31st, 2013
I completely understand. I'm exhausted all the time. Not from activity, but I think it's from the pain. Two hours seem to be my limit. Then I need a mental break, to be alone, away from the world.
I wish there was an easy answer. I think it takes time, and the feeling that we know what direction we are heading in.
Hang in there...
Me : no longer a BW or BGF. Starting over!
Them : in the past, where they can stay.
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 3:10 AM on Sunday, September 1st, 2013
(((Hugs)))
Just wanted you to know I seem to be experiencing the same thing.
It's so exhausting isnt it?
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
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