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hitbyatruck ( member #23769) posted at 6:59 PM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013

And I highly doubt he will be your last love, my dear. Your future is shining bright waiting for you to jump on in!

Married 1998. 2 kids. First discovery 3/2009. Multiple affairs, porn addiction. one failed attempt at R. Nested for over a year. Divorce final 8/2015. XH is now married. I am engaged!

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 Melody3 (original poster member #33591) posted at 1:55 AM on Wednesday, September 18th, 2013

I met with the lawyer last week........2 hours.......plus she revised the decree (again). I wonder how much that bill will be? Ugh......I've already spent a lot and not gotten very far.

She emailed me the draft of the decree, and if he doens't DISAGREE then it could be complete.

Why am I so scared? My heart skipped a beat when I saw it in my inbox. WE've worked on drafts before, but never been as final as we are now. He's not speaking to me this week (who knows why) and I'm trying to keep my distance........(as other on here tell me to do and my gut tells me) BUT my gut also wonders if this is the right thing. Why do we hesitate and doubt ourselves? Someone give me a kick.......

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 Melody3 (original poster member #33591) posted at 3:16 AM on Wednesday, September 18th, 2013

I'm really anxious and not dealing well with all of this tonight.

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hitbyatruck ( member #23769) posted at 11:14 PM on Wednesday, September 18th, 2013

Breath, this is a long time in coming. The divorce will stop the very shitty Limbo phase you have been in for so long. Oh, and he was never in Limbo, only you. He never gave up the side action long enough to even try. He has not once showed you a real effort in the many times he said he wanted to R.

It comes down to that you deserve better. Now you can hope and pray that he does right by the kids. Hugs to you.

Married 1998. 2 kids. First discovery 3/2009. Multiple affairs, porn addiction. one failed attempt at R. Nested for over a year. Divorce final 8/2015. XH is now married. I am engaged!

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 Melody3 (original poster member #33591) posted at 2:00 AM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013

Thanks Hit.

It just seems to be really hard right now in these last steps........

Reality, fear of unknown, etc.......Just have to take it moment by moment right now otherwise i get too overhwhelmed.

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