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asurvivor (original poster member #32368) posted at 2:08 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
I went to a black tie wedding Saturday with the most fabulous date. I have asked her numerous times to accompany me to different events this past year but to my dismay has always turned me down. I guess she felt our age difference was just too much…you know, all that annoying relating business. But after some prodding she agreed. She was beautiful and charming and albeit way too young, neither of us seemed to care. We danced and laughed and dished on the others while I had champagne and she sipped on her coke as she doesn’t drink alcohol which I find quite admirable. We both agreed that “Celebration” and “We are family” should be banned from weddings forever.
Later that night we went back to my house, had a snack stayed up another hour or so chatting about the night we had together. What I was most pleased about was that she didn’t text at all…at least I didn’t see any…didn’t roll her eyes at me one time…well maybe a couple of times. Really, not bad for a fifteen year old don’t you think?
She finally went up to her room and I thought…my teenage daughter is very very cool and is turning out just fine. I know I will probably return to Dad, the man who doesn’t know much about anything and the eye roll thing will happen every now and then but…I think that’s the way it’s supposed to be. I am proud of her and I think she is of me. I like where we are going.
I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know.
happenedtome ( member #6042) posted at 2:15 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
sheila0304 ( member #25041) posted at 2:16 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
Too cute.
You and your daughter are awesome!!!!
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 2:16 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
Awww...that was so sweet. Thank you for sharing. 
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
trebleclef ( member #33488) posted at 2:21 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
So sweet Dad! But I have to admit you had me going there for a second lol
True remorse isn't followed by a "but".
TattoodChinaDoll ( member #34602) posted at 2:26 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
That was adorable! But let me tell ya...my heart skipped a beat when I read fifteen!
Me: 35
WH: 37 TimeToManUp
Married: 14 years, together 19 years
3 daughters: 12, 8, 6, and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011
This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 2:27 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
I love this. Wish my XH took an interest in our daughters like that.
Great dad moment I bet she won't forget soon. They grow up so fast, enjoy her company as much as you can.
Hugs,
K
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 2:36 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
Great story Dad. I'm glad you had a great time with your DD. No eye-rolling and no texting - really a big deal! And I did not fall for it - I think I'm getting used to your humor. (No, I haven't been stalking you, just reading on SI a lot lately.)
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 2:47 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
clralb ( member #17185) posted at 2:52 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
LOL! Had me going for quite a while. When you said 15, I almost lost it. LOL!
Very, very sweet.
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Buddha
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 3:01 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 3:19 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
You can call me NIK
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Must Survive ( member #34533) posted at 3:47 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
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WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
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They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen
PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 3:50 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
Awesome! At first I thought it was going to say fifteen year age difference- then I was shocked - then a big grin popped on my face. You got me!
So glad you had a nice time with your teen!
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meaniemouse ( member #10798) posted at 4:11 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
This post made me cry like a baby. I really don't think there is anything a man does that's more important than be a good father to his daughter. He is forever the standard by which all future men will be measured.
She sounds lovely and you have so many more wonderful times ahead of you with her. Thanks for sharing this one with us.
Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James
peridot ( member #18334) posted at 4:35 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
Amazing!!!
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 4:44 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
love the sipped coke because she doesn't drink. 
I really don't think there is anything a man does that's more important than be a good father to his daughter. He is forever the standard by which all future men will be measured
This is so true !!! You are doing good Dad ! You made a beautiful memory for both of you !
[This message edited by gma56 at 10:46 PM, September 2nd (Monday)]
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It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 5:08 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
I almost started responding with some epic 2x4s before reading it all.
I am slightly loving you right now. LOVE THIS!!!
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 5:57 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
Nice one!
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
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to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
traicionada ( member #10310) posted at 6:27 PM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
You know what you remember when you're on your 20s & 30s and still trying to find the right one ...You remember the older guy who made you feel like you were most precious treasure in the world. The older guy who can pick up any women in the room but he picked you so you hold on to the memories and keep looking. Thanks for being that older guy. And yes, I still roll my eyes when my dad calls & questions me like I'm still 15 but that's part of my daughterly charm 
Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...
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