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Mack9512 (original poster member #38619) posted at 10:41 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
Went to the store with DD to get my fWH a birthday card. Last year was easy. It said "Happy Birthday".
We are now 6 months into true R and I couldn't find a card that fit. All of them were too lovey dovey, if you get my meaning. Even though we are doing well I'm just not ready to profess my undying love to him just yet. 
"If you're brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello." - Paulo Coehlo
Blameitontherain ( member #37476) posted at 10:47 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
I can relate. WH birthday was last week. They are over the top I love you to the moon and back or generic happy birthday. Too caring and too uncaring- no middle ground.
soconfusednow ( member #40078) posted at 10:56 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
When it comes to cards instead of getting a birthday or anniversary card, I look at the other cards, get one that says what I'm feeling or comfortable saying then add the Happy Birthday / anniversary myself
D-Day January 2013
prior EA in the 90's
me 50's WH 50's
NC-several, last broken NC 7/2013 (?)
Married 30+ years, 2 kids
Want to believe it's over, but is it really? Will I ever trust again?
RedRose ( member #39584) posted at 10:56 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
I agree. I bought two cards for WH's birthday this year, but didn't feel comfortable giving him either. I just explained that there weren't any cards that fit right now.
BW-37
WH - 38
2.5 year LTA
2nd A 2/20/16
mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 11:00 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
I got the most extreme lovey-dovey one I could find & gave it to him. Of course he is not smart enough to know that it was a complete sarcastic joke to me---in fact, it was a statement about what could have been, but is so missing from our marriage.
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 35 years/Together 36 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
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