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Vulcanized ( member #33523) posted at 9:12 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013
My XH & OW work in film/tv. When he is working, it's 14 hours a day, 6 days a week. I think the combo of intense work schedule, plus high pressure environment, coupled w/XH's poor boundaries and constant need for validation led to his A. Having talked to mutual friends that work w/both of them, OW has quite a reputation for being loose.
I think that since you spend so much time at work, you bond w/your co-workers. At my job, we hang out alot off hours. I've gone on vacation w/them more than once. The difference being, I'm friends w/the guys. I suppose it depends on the people in question, what their morals are.
Me: fBW/MH 40s
3.26.13: Liberation day: D'd the whiny turd after being saddled with a serial cheating, NPD, jitbag 10 years too long
Now:-----> Everything is as it should be
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 10:05 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013
Me, WH and OW are all academics. Me and WH at the same university, OW at a different one. WH and OW collaborated on several research projects.
EA happened when WH and OW were both together on sabbatical at another university in a different country. So long hours together and me completely out of the picture.
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
TropicalWoman ( new member #40621) posted at 10:15 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013
My fWH is a Unit Manager at a Life Insurance Company, and the OW was a Life Insurance Agent at his office. His occupation definitely creates excuses for late hours (honey, I've got an appointment with a client this evening, won't be home until late), or as in his case, "I have to do a presentation to some clients with one of the junior agents this evening". Even now, although he's ended the affair (I've seen proof that he has) every late night gives me pause. I hope one day these feelings of suspicion will dissipate.
MoreWould ( member #37982) posted at 10:15 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013
My FWW worked in the resort industry at the time of her A. She and her AP were both sports instructors. Long and highly variable hours, fucking perfect.
I had an RA with the W of an associate. Hooked up at a corporate retreat, with a wink and a nod from her H. We weren't the only ones.
My best friend's WW is a nurse. Another is in real estate.
I'm here because of two coworkers whose flagrant EA (suspected PA) triggered wicked PTSD attacks and flashbacks from our A season over 30 years ago.
Work is the land of opportunity. Recent statistics show that wives who work are unfaithful at pretty much the same rate as husbands that work. The stats for the stay-at-homes are better, it's just that more women have that lifestyle, so their overall A-rate looks a little better.
Ugh.
Me BH/WH, 63
Her WW/BW, 62
Her DDay Dec 1976 OMW at the door
My DDay, ~ 2years later, confessed ONS the next day
R via "Sweeping under the rug"
Still married, 40 yrs, mostly OK
2 kids, 24 & 20
TrulySad ( member #39652) posted at 10:48 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013
I think the workplace can make things easier to something to evolve. Areas that I've either lost a relationship in, or saw it happen are:
The Military
Law Enforcement
Emergency Services
Hospital
Bar/Restaurant
Now, I refuse to date anyone in one of these fields.
Me : no longer a BW or BGF. Starting over!
Them : in the past, where they can stay.
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